Is it normal that i go soft when my girlfriends giving me a handie?

Maybe she's not good at it? Maybe she hasn't had much experience? Do you have experience to compare it to? Try some lube and have her start slow guide her hand and show her how you like it.

Okay this is your problem, you say rug burn? I'm guessing you're circumsized. I've never given my boyfriend hand because it hurts him and once when he masturbated too hard he got a cut, she's not carefully jacking you off and there's no lube involved so ya it's going to hurt, ask her for head!

Masturbate! No-one knows what you want better than you.

Maybe her hands are really dry.

Make sure her hands have spit or lube on it

Use lube. seriously.

probably need to switch up her technique and use lotions or lubes

Maybe she don't know what she is doing. My boyfriend had to show me exactly how to do it cause I never done that before(yea I know how embearsing is that)

Is her hands made of sandpaper?!

You need lubrication obviously. Make her spit in her hand.

She's not into you. By Christmas you won't even remember her name. Just stop all sexual contact.

Do you give her feedback!? Obviously she has no idea wtf she's doing.

Hand jobs suck...okay they really don't suck. But hand jobs are passe`. What you need to do is to teach her how to suck your dick like a professional and you'll never (and I mean ever) want another "handie".

Do bj blowjobs 1 they are actually more romantic to then somehow I gess they want your penis inside them like that wird

Omg I didn't think of that nice handys

GUIDE HER, MY FRIEND. If you want it to feel good, tell/show her how to make her handjobs better!

Lust is almost always a two way thing. Its not very sexy when a woman is jerking on your dick mechanically with a bored face. It can even hurt. If she doesnt like to do it, you probably wont feel good either when she does it.

Maybe shes freaked out by your penis (its not that uncommon for girls, even if they enjoy penetration or other ways of sex), maybe its just a lack of romance in the very situation. Dont use her as a masturbation device, try to make it a sexy thing.

Also, you as a man are not obliged to be hard, horny and ready to cum, as soon as somebody touches your penis.

I had a gf who loved to give me bj, but hated jerking me off. I felt that she didnt cherish me/my dick when she did it. it turned me off and i also would go soft or would take a long time to cum. Unfortunately i was too young then to talk about this with her, it worked out fine with others.

Conclusion: Yes, its normal.

I don't blame you she's clearly not committed if she's giving you shitty handys;) you need someone to ride you & treat you rightttt

It's normal. Some girls just don't know how to do it but that's what you are there for is to help her out and to make it better for the both of you

Nah, No-one can do it better than yourself. I hate it too, doesn't matter who from, It's just as boring as shit. 'Scuse the Français.

*handjobs* ....

She's doing it wrong!

Well maybe if you helped to show her how you like it then it would feel much better, you know kinda give her a "hand" ?

I think getting some lube isnt out of the question either, I enjoy it myself, hands down.

go to an adult store to see if you can find products to help ease the situation?

Some girls can be just like some guys and don't mix it up much. Had a few gf's where I've just lost interest , maybe it's just that. And , u need to use some oils or somem by the sounds of that.

Maybe she's a scratch-er?