Is it normal that i get way too attached to people?

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Is it normal that i get attached way to much to people. This often is a boyfriend because it becomes the closest person to me. The problem is: when he is not around, i panik. Its hard to explain... Its as if I depend on him and I need him for comfort. If i text him and he doesnt answer, i get sick to my stomach. It is like panick attack. I feel like I always have to know that everything is alright and that he's not gonna leave. Im not afraid hes cheating or anything, i just need to know hes there for me. This happened all my life... Not only with boyfriends. I got attached to teachers when I was in school and was ssooooo sad to let them go. It was the end of the world for me because they were the ones i trusted and they made me feel better. Theres always one person like that in my life and i'm going crazy because i cant deal with this anxiety anymore... I did some research and came across codependancy. Im exacly that type bit the thing is... With codependacy, theres always an addict involved and no one i know is an addict... Im confused. Please help!

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  • fullhouse
    11 years ago

    I am like that too. I've always had one person who I was very close with and they're mostlt of opposite sex. I think I have abondonment issues and so I seem to need my parter to remind me that she loves me and everything is going good. I also try to be the best guy for her always and go out of my way to please her and keep her with me.
    Thank gawd my would be wife deals with it! I can't advice you to stop behaving like this since I couldn't help it myself but trust me, you'll learn to take it easy when you find the right person..

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    From this moment forth you shall be known as.

    Lady Clingyface.

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  • Littledreamer
    11 years ago

    I used to be like that. For me, if I didn't have someone there or if they didn't text back or if I said somethin I thought may have sounded dumb I'd get sick to my stomach too. When this got very extream I made bad sexual decisions and it fucked things up for me for a while. Once I figured everything out and matured I realized I don't need people. People usually suck and they almost always hurt you eventually. Our dependency on others can be damaging. Try to find a hobbie. Perhaps join a gym or start a sport? Create some goals that have nothing to do with anyone you know or anything to do with making you look good. Do something for yourself. It really helps :)

    Also if you lean on someone for confort and depend on them too much and they leave you or they are really a jerk then you will freak. You need to give some personal space for your own good. Trust me.

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  • squeallikeasacofpigs
    11 years ago

    Learn to spell panic

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  • forever_anon
    11 years ago

    I wouldn't say it's normal, but it may be understandable depending on your life circumstances. Although you say you didn't have an addict in your family, you may get attached to people very easily if you lived in a hostile family environment or didn't feel secure in your parents' love. Consciously or unconsciously, you may be searching for an attachment figure (i.e. a teacher or boyfriend) to take the place of the person who wasn't there when you needed them to be. It sounds like your boyfriend is willing to be there for you and accepts who you are, so I wouldn't say you necessarily need to change unless the dependency becomes a problem in your daily life or relationship.

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  • Energy
    11 years ago

    Overly attatched girlfriend? Is that you?

    Lmao. But really, I felt like that about my ex. But I was in love. And they started hurting me. So of course I was scared everyday. But never felt that way about a teacher. I do miss some of my teachers though.

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