Is it normal that i get upset with my boyfriend over everything?

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i get upset with my boyfriend over the smallest things... lately we have been very rocky and the topic of breaking up has popped up allot ..we have had a on off relationship for the last two years but we never really changed the way we acted around each other (we still spent allot of time together and still kissed) and eventually got back together within a week but i just have the feeling that this time would be the last if we split up ..and im becoming very clingy all i want to do is be in his arms all day because its the only way i can feel happy lately.. and i found myself looking into everything with great detail lately i just wait by the phone waiting for him to text wondering why he hasent yet and eventually i would crack and text him instead and if he was out with his friends i would just start thinking ...why hasent he texted? is he having to much fun to think about me? why doesn't he want me their? why hasent he asked me to come out yet? and my heart is just going insane because im so upset but my head is telling me to stop and slow down because i know im just going to push him away if i keep acting like this ...and i get the same way when he doesn't call me at the weekend when he finishes work i instantly start thinking he doesn't want me and doesn't want to see me or be with me and it killing me being like this ...is it normal ? someone please give me some advice i feal like i cant talk to anyone about it because i know it sounds crazy :( and their is allot more things i get upset about but that would be the top thing i cant control please help!

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    You really need to get real. If you are suffocating this guy, then you are right, he doesn't want to be out with you and prefers his pals. At least they are fun!!!

    You would be 1000 times more attractive to him if you were to get another interest - apart from him, and be less suffocating!!

    You need to treat him as you would a female friend. Would you ball her out for not calling you immediately after work? Or ask why she didn't call when she was out with her mates? Your female pals wouldn't hang around you for very long if you did, and why should your bf if you behave like this?! He is a person in his own right, you don't own anyone y'know!!

    Good luck.

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  • poon__jabber
    9 years ago

    don't stick all your eggs in one basket, gf.. start thinking about other dudes bcuz i can guarantee he's thinking about other girls.. that's why he doesn't want you around.

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  • chatter289
    12 years ago

    It is normal but you really need to get yourself a hobby! I use to feel like that and I think one possible reason may be due to your insecurity. I use to feel like that all the time, I was insecure in my relationships, and insecurity leads to questions such as, why is he not texting me? Is he having too much fun without me? And so on. It's been 2 years, I think you two need to sit down and talk, communication is the key to any relationship, hence why mine has gotten strong and I no longer feel insecure.tell I'm how you feel and tell hm that you do understand that they may be silly things but you just needs eeassurance and see what he says.

    But start spending more time with your friends, keepyourself occupied, you have gotten yourself stuck in his surrounding alone, you don't have your own space of just being happy with you and you only seem to be happy when his around. Which is good, but never too good when it's clingy because you will push him away.

    Talk to him about it, start keeping yourself busy AND why don't you guys do fun things together, go out on dates here and there, go for walks, cook for him, give each other massages, have a movie day and eat nothing but junk foood. Try and revive that spark because not only will it keep the relationships fresh, it will also help you with your mentAl state.

    Give it a try, what do you have to loose in the end? At least then if anything oldies happen, you can feel happy within yourself because you can at least say you did your best so your conscious can be clear.

    Good luck xx

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  • cannibus14
    12 years ago

    im not saying its good but it is normal. people think like that a lot in relationships. i just broke up with my boyfriend yesterday cuz i felt like i could only be happy when he was talking to me and i didn't know how else to handle that feeling and i just ended it. whether or not that was the best thing to do i know it's gonna be fine cuz im 19 and still have a lot to learn. i've been crying a lot all day but i feel like at least my saddness is external now, im sad about like a real thing, rather than being sad that he wasn't talking to me. i'm sad about a serious breakup and that feels a lot better to be sad about because i know it can only get better from here, which is a lot better feeling than being in a relationship wondering what you're supposed to do the entire time. im not saying breakup but u should know it's not the worst thing, even though i really understand that it seems like it is.
    if we're meant to be together it'll work out that way, but i think i have a lot of growing up to do first

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