Is it normal that i get ~real~ crushes only once every 2 years?

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I have a lot of friends that date regularly. They meet people, go out a few times, they have relationships that come and go and last weeks to a handful of months, that sort of thing.

Everything I see on TV seems to indicate that this sort of activity is the norm as well.

For me... (I'm female) I only really develop genuine crushes on people about once every two years. Not like clockwork, but on average this seems to be how regularly I get that funny feeling in my chest, the butterflies, and all that.

I've only dated four people since high school, and each one was a very long term relationship. I just don't feel the spark with many people and when I do it's often a 2+ year relationship.

I guess it's not "normal" since everything seems to point to the opposite, but is anyone else like this? Does it seem weird to those who aren't?

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  • disthing
    12 years ago

    I'm male and have exactly the same experience :)

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    • ComTlancy
      12 years ago

      I concur.

      OP, if another crush comes by again, seize the opportunity. I feel that it's better to date someone that you have that spark and crush for over someone to which you'd have to force these feeling to happen.

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  • Ldizzy1234
    12 years ago

    Me too!!!! Seriously, I know people that get a new crush sometimes every couple months or three to four months, and boom its done. They move onto the next. Not me! I get a crush, and it lasts for maybe 2-3 years before I finally start to get over them. If I have reason to get over them. Like if I feel as though I'm not progressing at all. And since it lasts so long, I don't even like to call it a crush, because in the moment in feels like I might be in love or something. Haha! I know, very immature. lol.

    I don't fall easily at all. I only really get a new crush once every 2-3 years, sometimes even 3-4 years.

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  • solidman
    12 years ago

    Lol I'm as same as you I've only had the spark so far for to girls in my intire life the first was my first love then its over but after 2 years this other really nice girl but then again its over -.- so again 2 years after it begins its my first love again only this time I lost her =,[.

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  • Cats_question
    12 years ago

    I know how you feel. I'm also a girl and it's just that people can be disappointing. It's hard to find someone genuine these days and not just that but i mean most people are so self absorbed its hard to find someone that clicks with you. Not just that but casual dates could always mean its taking a chance. you are normal. trust me.

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  • AL_Ranger
    12 years ago

    I get crushes few and far between as well. I think with a lot of people they 'think' they like someone, go on a trail run, don't like it then break up then repeat the process. I'm the type of guy that feels weird going after another girl if I have a strong crush with someone else.

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  • tbiM20
    12 years ago

    I'm the same. My relationships have almost always been long. Short ones just aren't fulfilling and are more of a downer to me personally than just staying single for a while.

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  • oliveyou
    12 years ago

    I'm female and I'm like that too. It's very rare someone special catches my eye but when they do I am quite obsessed. Since hitting puberty I've only had 3 "real" crushes. I still hang out with other people but it definitely isn't the same.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    12 years ago

    I don't know, that sounds pretty normal to me.
    Casual dating is great and all, but not everyone does it.

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