Is it normal that i get panicked if a guy is interested in me?

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Any time a guy asks me for my number, or just tries to make conversation with me, I freak out. I don't have episodes or anything, I just do crazy things to avoid them. Like,the other day, this guy asked me for my number, and to sit with him at lunch. I hid in the bathroom, so I wouldn't have to sit with him. I have also never had a boyfriend, because I'm so afraid of letting a guy get that close.

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  • AnalyticalAm
    12 years ago

    I don't like guys to just ask me out. It gives me a weird, scummy vibe. If I had a good conversation with them first I'd be more interested. Just coming out of the blue and asking me out makes me feel like they like what they see on the outside and that's all they really need. In their mind it's probably to get to know me, but I myself need to know the type of person a guy is before attraction starts to affect me. Otherwise someone just being attractive doesn't work on me.

    I consider this a flaw, for the record. It doesn't sit well with me and affects my ability to casually date.

    I don't know how normal it is, but it doesn't make you inhuman or bad in anyway. Unfortunately you can't simply change how you feel, just how you perceive. It's something that requires work.

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  • JustDave
    12 years ago

    Don't worry, The guys are just as nervous as you are.

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  • Saycheese
    12 years ago

    I hate to say it but I'm like that too. I would rather get to know him a little bit before him asking for my number.

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  • TwistedLittleGirl
    12 years ago

    Don't worry I'm the same, a guy once ask me for my number and I got so scared I started shaking but that's only because I didn't know him its easier when you know the person xx

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    *quintessential

    Problematic was typo. Apologies

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  • Energy
    12 years ago

    Awww, it's ok! Lots of guys and girls are like that. You just have to force yourself to step out of your comfort zone a bit at a time. Good luck!

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  • karmasAbich
    12 years ago

    I find this strange. What is there to be ashamed of? Perhaps try stepping out of your comfort zone to experience feelings you haven't had before. Face the feelings that are preventing you from trying new things, in other words.

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  • Faceless
    12 years ago

    That hilarious.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    You sound like a catch to me.

    Hid in the bathroom? I would say troll, but I bet this really did happen.

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    • bananaface
      12 years ago

      Insensitive much? I'd hardly call her a troll either.

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      • [Old Memory]
        12 years ago

        Thats right, how insensitive of me. I forgot every single comment we make on this website has to made of sugar and spice and everything nice.....

        The poster listed how they physically hide in a bathroom instead of engaging in a social situation, and you expected me to say what??

        Good for you, you find that bathroom and you stay there.

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        • shannabee1601
          12 years ago

          Instead of succumbing to the thrill of being rude over the internet, you could have respectfully informed me that you thought this behavior was ridiculous and strange.

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          • [Old Memory]
            12 years ago

            Yeh but thats no fun, besides deep down you suspect it is strange behavior, why else would you ask this question?

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            • shannabee1601
              12 years ago

              Exactly, that's why I posted it. I wanted some helpful feedback on my anxiety towards guys. You think I don't know that hiding in the bathroom is weird? If I thought that my actions were completely normal and rational, I wouldn't have asked this question.

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