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This might sound crazy, but it turns me on when my partner (male) masturbates to other girls (like in porn vids, etc). Aren't I supposed to be mad at him for that?!
Personally, I don't think it's so strange. It's definitely not typical. Most women dislike their men getting off to other females as they see them as competition, so to speak, not realizing they oppose no threat to the relationship and that sexual arousal for these so-called rivals (not limited to the lovely ladies of porn) will, or in rare cases will not, happen. I can relate to an extent. I think what is arousing about it is the idea that you are entering the realm of your partner's erotic mind and vicariously partaking in his pleasure.
Like most women, I'd rather my man masturbate to me. Better yet, ideally, fuck me. Looking at me. Thinking of me. Haha.
" Aren't I supposed to be mad at him for that?!"
No. That's what the insecure girls try making all other women believe.
if it's porn you shouldn't be getting mad at him for watching it, only if he's with a 'real life' woman.
Me and my girlfriend enjoy porn together, I get excited knowing she gets wet watching other people have sex.
I do not know how common it is but I think I can understand your preference. I (male) get very aroused by my partner (female) masturbating to porn or other stuff. This might not be surprising but what I do not understand in my case is the fact that in other aspects I am a very jealous person but this one case (her being aroused and masturbating to other men in porn) does not hurt me, on the contrary, I love watching her in that situation. As for the jealousy issue, two possible explanations occured to me:
1.People can sexualize situations which have the potential to traumatize them. In fact, erotization or sexualization of these potentially traumatising things can be one way to overcome their destructive potential or to process them in a way that helps them survive and deal with their inner fears.
2.In my case, my jealousy is started mainly by the situations when other men are attracted to my partner rather than by her attraction to men who do not know about her at all. So in my strange case, my pathological jealousy has more to do with the state of mind or motivation of other men being attracted to her than with her state of mind. I mean, if they do not know about her, it is OK for me that she is aroused by them to the point of reaching orgasms during masturbation to their videos. The problem for me would start only if they were aroused by her. This is just my feeling about it and I am still trying to understand this irrational aspect of my jealousy where it is the man´s interest in her that troubles me more than her sexual response to unknown men in videos.