Is it normal that i get many compliments and i still hate myself?

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Lately, I've been getting plenty of compliments about how people think I'm pretty, kind, funny, and caring. I love being told such nice things, but when I look in the mirror I see a fat, ugly nobody, who is weird, abnormal, stupid, and mean. I'm not sure if these compliments are white lies, but people I hardly know tell me that I am pretty. I find it hard to believe. No matter how hard I try there is hardly anything good I see about myself. When I am told a compliment, I simply say, "How?" As if to say how do you think that? They give me reasons, and I wonder how good they must be at lying. Is this normal?

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  • lovesfriend
    11 years ago

    Its So Normal for us to not see ourselves the same ways others do. We know ourselves better than anyone and see all the things they want to get to know better. I get sooo many compliments about my physical appearance, character, you name it. I think I could do a lot better, so I totally get it.

    Just start listening to others and being a bit more objective in your perception of yourself. Don't take it all in or you'll have a big head. Things you hear most often that are character based concentrate on those and cultivating your virtues and forget the way you look. I mean take care of yourself, but think about how you are rather than how you look.

    That's the first step, I've been there and depending on the day I'm still there. It gets better.

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  • Ankoku
    12 years ago

    I'm the same way.

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  • BeAStar
    13 years ago

    I used to feel exactly like this! Im only 17 but after my like took a turn for the worst when I was diagnosed with a chronic illness, I had to find peace in me. It was the only way I could make it through! You have to see yourself as a beautiful person and that you really do matter. Time will help to heal your pain but talking to other people about how you feel is always a good step :)

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  • Penguin_pie
    13 years ago

    Strangers arent going to lie to you...if they say you are pretty, you are. But yes it's normal. You can get all the compliments in the world and still not like yourself. Its messed up , I am the same way.

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  • Gracie-Ayo
    13 years ago

    I DEFFO KNOW HOW YOU FEEL... we are very similar in this way, I turn alot of positives into negative's. You just need to learn how to change your mindset and start to love what's in the mirror. EASIER SAID THEN DONE. i know that for sure but maybe start with rebuking those bad thoughts that come into your head

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  • ragdolljazz
    13 years ago

    I know how you feel too :( My friends are always telling me how pretty I am, and how smart and nice and funny I am but all I can think is how they're lying to me. The nice thing though, I'm actally horrible :/ I hide it under manners but I have this awful tendency to manipulate my friends and calculate what to say and what to do to get the outcome I want. So maybe I'm just a horrible person.
    I'm sure you're not though, you seem lovely :)

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  • ChevysGirl
    13 years ago

    I feel the exact same way!!

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  • Faceless
    13 years ago

    You should reverse that thinking for it is rather mentally unhealthy. Instead of thinking theyre lying, know theyre telling the truth.

    What helps me is that i sleep with a white noise machine that tells me repeatedly that im a good person to the ambient sound of a gentle rainstorm. In the morning I usually discover that I pissed the bed... but at least im a good person.

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  • nanimeow
    13 years ago

    I'm not trying to be mean but maybe the reason they are complimenting you is because they notice your low self esteem. It isn't some secret club you need to be in to improve yourself. If you don't like something about yourself, improve it. Don't like your weight? Lose some weight. Wish you had more money? Find better ways to save. Etc. etc. In the end it isn't about how the people around perceive you; but how you perceive yourself. You are going to leave this world with your own experiences and feelings; not others'.

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