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Is it normal That i get mad at my girlfriend for drinking with her friends? She does it at her friends house. She's technicly not legal. I beg her not to do it but she does. But am i normal? Am I right or is she?
Pick your battles. Hint: this is not a good one to pick.
You are her boyfriend, not the boss of her and drinking with her friends at their house is not your concern. Be a designated driver for her, but lose the control-freakery.
agree very much with your point, if you keep bitching about little stuff like this she will eventually feel like she cannot do anything and she is losing her freedom, this is deadly for any relationship. why don't you go out drinking together sometime with some of your common friends, you can see her in action and relate a bit better.
Ew sorry to be nasty but u seem abit obsessed you aren't her dad or herolder brother your her partner and if u carry on its true she will start lying to you about where she has been if you don't drink then its more understandable but to be honnes thats no excuse. Unless she doesit everyday and there's no need to panic she's a young girl she will start to hate u if u don't approve of her social life u dont want her thinking " I spent the most of my youth trying to please this man" your a long time dead.
So enjoyyyyyy life party hard and live for now
I'm only 20 and I sound like a 60 year old
was she a drinker when you first started dating? if so then leave it alone.. Also just because she is your GF does not mean you own her. she will do what she will and you have to respect that.
It's her life you don't own her, if she wants to drink she can, simple...... leave her if your unhappy with the situation... simple also!!!!! job done
There's drinking and drinking. Does she have a couple of beers or fifteen babyshams? If she routinely gets completely wasted and you have to pick up the pieces and be responsible in whatever stupid or potentially dangerous situation she has put herself in as a result of the drinking then your attitude is understandable. If it's really just because of the underage thing then frankly mind your own business.
See I dont really understand some of the other comments, I really didnt read this as the guy trying to dominate or control his girlfriend, I read it as him making a reasonable request (he doesnt like her drinking and she is underage after all) and his girlfriend just ignoring it.
If she doesnt respect what you ask of her then dont get too emotionally attached.
And I dont wana rant here but if this was a girl saying she wants her boyfriend to stop and he was just ignoring it I bet most of the comments would be about how much of an asshole he is.
I said "not normal", but after thinking about it... yeah, I say it's normal.
If you've asked her for a while to stop drinking, and she has refused to do it all along, then she isn't going to change.
Not normal. You're her boyfriend, not her father. And big deal if she drinks with her friends, plenty of people do. If you don't trust her, that's your own problem for *you* to work out, not burden her with.
You sound very controlling. I hope you work on understanding that you and she are two separate individuals, and that you cannot control her or her actions.
its up to her if she wants to drink, theres nothing wrong with it in my opinion im not legal and my parents let me drink, doesnt mean my lifes gona get ruined or anything its just fun, whats it got to do with you what she does with her friends anyway.
Why do you care that she drinks? She is just having fun with her friends! Honestly how many people wait until they are of age to start drinking? Trying to limit kids from drinking is a joke really, everyone does anyways!
I'd say it's normal, but you get what you get when you date a girl that likes to have a good time. Either tell her your concerns and try to ensure that she stays safe or only date wholesome, traditional stock girls.
You can't control her habits. She may not be off age, but your pleading won't stop her.
It's normal that you're upset.
Are you guys 13?
I'm pretty sure most people start drinking before they are of age.