Is it normal that i get mad at my boyfriend for this?

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My boyfriend moved in with me almost four months ago, and at first we would do things together, have sex, and talk. Now, though, he spends all of his time on my little sisters laptop that he "borrowed" talking to his online friends. I understand that we moved really far away from where we used to be, and all either of us has for friends is who we can talk to online, but he doesn't do anything else. He hasn't showered in over a week, I have to send my mom in to make him get up and come downstairs for dinner, we only talk over instant messengers, and he doesn't even kiss me anymore. Then he gets mad at me for telling him that these things are bothering me. We spend most of our time in separate rooms, and the only time we're near each other is when we watch a movie together at night (the one thing I insisted on until I got my way). He doesn't even come to bed anymore, instead opting to sleep on the couch with the computer on so he can talk to people as soon as he wakes up. I have two friends other than him, and he has about twenty online other than me, and yet he says I don't understand what it's like to not have any friends. Is it normal that I get pissed off about this?

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  • Ashleyloohoo
    11 years ago

    Wow, really? Well guys are always on their best behavior when dating. And this is his? Idk, if I were you I'd dump his sorry butt. You can find someone better :)

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  • Captain_Kegstand
    11 years ago

    The passion is gone, you need someone that will treat you like you deserve. Sorry to say this but it sounds to me like he has already lost you, and your just hanging on hoping he will turn back into the guy you originally meet. (very doubtful)

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    • JustinBiebsFan#1
      11 years ago

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      • Captain_Kegstand
        11 years ago

        PEE.FUCKING.ASS? I quite enjoy the randomness that comes out of you, always makes me wonder!

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  • GuessWho
    11 years ago

    Assuming you're not a troll...

    DUMP HIM! No-one deserves a partner/lover that doesn't pay attention to them.

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    • cammers
      11 years ago

      yeah you need to dump him he obivously isn't happy why waste your time and his with this sucky relationship? think about it

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Who's idea was it for him to move in? (Who suggested it)

    He should have a life outside of his relationship, as should you.

    He doesn't kiss you? Then you try to kiss him, don't say it's a problem if you aren't trying to kiss him either.

    Seperate rooms? Since you live with your mother, maybe that's because your mother didn't want you and him sharing a room and that you're missing that part out?

    You have two friends other than him, and I notice how you missed out the "online" part to include those two friends, where as he has 20 friends "online". Having two friends in reality is by far more better than having even a hundred online. You have friends you can go talk to and be with, he doesn't, it isn't the same, so you wouldn't understand what it's like.

    He needs more than just you in life, where as you have more than just him in life. If anything, he should be the one being pissy.

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    • Gebruikersnaam
      11 years ago

      True. You should be there for him, so he doesn't need to talk with his online friends all day and night.

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  • 7777777e
    7 years ago

    Leave him.

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  • Digsbie
    7 years ago

    dump him you sound like a nice person a lot of guys would love to date a girl like u

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  • Jessemosixx1
    11 years ago

    Dumb his ass, us women dont deserve some guy like that. Unless he can change his ways x

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  • MssMurd3r
    11 years ago

    Dump him. His lack of hygiene is enough of a reason alone but he's clearly mistreating you on top of that.

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  • joybird
    11 years ago

    Young people don't realise that the fastest way to 'burn out' a relationship is to be with the person 24/7.

    I'm sorry but I agree with the others. He is ignoring you coz you are allowing him to. He thinks he's at home with his mom who will put up with this shit coz she's no real choice - I bet she was glad to be rid of him!!

    Have more repect for yourself, and kick him out.

    While growing up my dad used to read the newspaper every evening while my mom and I did all the housework and saw to my siblings. It was his way of ignoring us all. To this day, I cannot stand anyone reading a paper or mag in front of me!! The modern day equivalent is the computer or texting someone else in your company. It says that the person beside you is NOT as important as some 'friend' on the other end of the line. Take note of what he's telling you - actions speak louder than words, and he's telling you loud and clear that he is no longer interested in you :o(

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  • Alafoak
    11 years ago

    He moved in with your family. That's tough, be nicer to him and invite him for a threesome, go to a prostitute if you have to. That will get him out of the rut. And who knows maby you will find out how much you like vagina.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    He might be depressed, but if he is, it is not your fault and he shouldn't take it out on you.

    You need to sit down with him and have a heart-to-heart about where to go from here. It's not a good situation for either of you, there is too much resentment from both.

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