Is it normal that i get insecure because of this?

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I'm insecure and my boyfriend sometimes says things that make me insecure?
He used to date this girl a few times, before we started dating and got together. This girl is extremely pretty and she knows it. Yesterday I was buying my boyfriend a ring for his birthday, we entered the store and guess who worked there ? yep, that girl. He said to me ‘WTF, (name girl ) works here! and I was wondering why he could be bothered so much, he didn’t take initiative anymore to go inside there and I only told him ‘yep, I don’t know what to say to you cause of the way you react’. Later that night I was still feeling down about this and asked him why he reacted that way. He said ‘I dont know’. And I told him ‘If you react that way it makes me think you feel bad that she works there and still like her or something’. He said ‘no I said it because I didn’t want you to have to be around her cause she’s an arrogant child’. I don’t know if I believe him cause his reaction was really different than that. I told him that I more often get insecure by things he says. And he said he was sorry and would change his way of putting things. Later that evening he told me he loves me ( he doesnt tell me that often) but I dont know if he did to make me feel better or because he means it..

I know I’m insecure , but it was a big step for me to tell that his behaviour is often making me feel insecure. I just can’t seem to get over things like this and I’m extremely afraid of this girl cause she’s so pretty and thin and stuff and so intimidating…
He sometimes tells me that this Lindsey is pretty and thin, but that he likes me more. But it makes me feel so bad. Mostly because I used to have an eating disorder, and these remarks influence me a lot :( and I just don't have the guts to tell him where I come from..

Sometimes he's not paying me back when I pay a present for friends of us. He always meets his friends during the weekends and never goes out with me. He is in a band and has these girls haning around me which makes me feel possesive ( even though I do not show him ) But it's all inside me and I feel more frustrated every day)
Just dont know what to do
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  • chocolate21
    10 years ago

    Why are there random letters in the middle of the writing?

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  • TotesMehGoatsMan
    11 years ago

    ’’’’’’’ is what i got out of that

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  • ninehalf338
    13 years ago

    What?

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  • theAnomilyGuy
    13 years ago

    I'm sorry, I usually sugar coat things but I'm tired of it being acceptable that women can trip off things that guys wouldn't. All I can say to you and the female gender is stop being so insecure, realize that you're the shit (that's why he loves you), and stop tripping.

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  • Sophynya
    14 years ago

    OK for the first part you did right by telling him how you feel BIG UPS!! on that one next if he responded to you in a positive manner( no yelling, calm) then try to take it as is I dont know how long you guys bin dealing for or even if you guys fight alot but from little you said it seems your to shy/insicure to start a fight and for most guys would get more defensive bout it if it was a real deal. you've had you problems (eating disorder) and prob with other things too but some advice if hes not known for cheat then good if hes not a yeller then good. the worse thing you can do is keep everything inside then let it explode you say he dose not say i love you alot well alot of ppl are like that women too but more so for guys. Thinking that he said it to make you feel better might not be off the mark but also dont rule out that it is ment gather all the things you do together say together and see if they reflect on how you both feel. hes in a band well hell yea your dating a rock star lol but you should know that that comes with stress too for you and him (he has these girls haning around >me< which makes me feel possesive) i dont know if you ment him when you said me ehither way go too his gigs or WTE if you do great butlook and really look at how he interacts with the ppl there dont clig to him to show hes yours trust that he lets that be known or shows it when you are there if not then you can start but when i say start talk to him let him know whats up. but plz understand that its a two way street what you feel he might feel the same way hell us guys rather slap mud on our probs then see the doc ie. you. think in this way when he said she was chiledish it was probaly the truth he may well know your insucure and knows how youed react to the ex and when he says chiledish shed probly go out of her way to make you feel worse so he was probly trying to protect you so becaful not to spurn moments when hes trys to be good to you good luck and LATER DAYZ!!

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