Is it normal that i get frustrated with my boyfriends long hours?

I thought "hours" said "horns." lol

He likes work more. Go twerk.

Why does everyone assume her friends are all girls? lol

Thats right honey, go to the mall with your girlfriends and do some shopping and get a pedicure and go to Victoria's Secret to buy some lingerie. Don't bother your manly man with your girl problems, just make sure his steak is on the table when he gets home.

It's normal. You just wish to see him more often. But if he can't control that, then why yell about it?

I agree with joybird. Be happy when you do see him, and during the time that he's not with you, go find your girls, or just chill by yourself. Nothing wrong with that. He'd probably do the same if you were at work.

If you keep arguing he won't be your bf for much longer! He can't help working and if he's doing it to further his career, and if you believed you would be with him forever, then surely in the long run it would be to your benefit.

You must be very young. Think about women whose husbands work on oil rigs or are away in the army. They don't phone them to argue!

Carry on with your own life with your female friends and be glad to see him when he can, otherwise he'll dump you coz he needs support not nagging.

It's not normal for him not to give you a heads up. You said that you have trouble arranging time for him. You shouldn't have to give up your time because he couldn't even text you that he'd be late. He's showing no respect for your time.

You're not being selfish.

awh the classic no time issue. very normal, talk to him, let him know you want better communication from him about his working late. You want to be able to plan time together and you would like to know if he is working a double on Monday night or not. Just let him know. He probably knows, but as a girl, we need to not ASSUME he knows. Dont let it come off as a "its your job or me!" thing, but as a You need to talk to me, thing. Best of luck

I've worked very long hours for the past nine months (now over... yay!) but many times I've had to work until midnight or often right through the night and have let friends down at short notice. As soon as I've known it was necessary, I told them. But often they were already where I agreed to meet them. I understand how annoying it is, but I don't feel I had a choice. Maybe your boyfriend is in the same position.

Having said that, in this position, I only let a girlfriend down once when it was absolutely necessary. I think you and he need to talk and to come up with an arrangement that is at least partially satisfactory for both of you.

It is normal to be frustrated, but just tell him how you feel and I'm sure he'll tell you in the future. I'm sure he's just as frustrated as you are about not being able to see you, hence the arguements. If the issue can be resolved, the argueing should also fade out, even about other things.

I don't think it's normal to constantly argue about something and it's only been 5 months. I don't think that you're selfish either. It's normal to be frustrated by his long hours and not seeing him much in a week. I think he can do a better job at updating you if he will be working longer or not, because that can ruin a lot of your time you could have planned on doing something instead of waiting for him. Talk with him and try to solve this, it would be very stupid for your relationship to end because of this.

It's normal. Tell him that it would be nice to have a headsup if he's going to be late, and that you would like to be able to talk to him more if possible.