Is it normal that i get bummed if my boyfriend talks to a girl

You've been with this guy for 2,5 years, so it's a pretty serious and longterm relationship. If you think it's a realistic possibility that he might cheat on you, then your relationship is based on whether or not he meets someone he wants to sleep with.
You should be able to trust the person you're in a relationship with. If you don't think you can trust him, then I'm sorry to say your relationship isn't working out.

You are acting like a crazy control freak. He is going to dump your sorry conniving ass once he finds out what you've been done behind his back.

You've been so worried about him betraying you, that you have gone ahead and justified betraying him.

Live and learn. He will.

@legion thanks:) Infact I did speak to him and we're much clearer on how we both feel .. I feel much better tbh and everything seems to be on a better level

you seem to be having trust issues with him. such suspicions, especially if they are ill-founded, can really hurt a relationship.

Look into your relationship and see how well you are doing. If there's too much tension between you, or if you cant trust him, you may have to end it.

And also, Snooping through your boyfriends personal stuff like that is a violation of trust, and If my girlfriend did that, id take it the same as cheating.

talk to him about how you feel. then listen to how he feels about it. it will be hard, but necessary. hopefully it will give you the chance to see where your at, and maybe, a chance to rectify problems, regain your confidence in your boyfriend, and restore your relationship.

That's so retarded >.<! But, I bet it's okay for you to talk to you're guy friends, right? Rubbish!

Thanks so much guys! All of you lot have really knocked some sense into me and I like tht very much!!! I have to show him respect and stop snooping in his personal stuff, he!'s entitled to his privacy and like one of u mentioned above, doing tt behind his back can give him the motive to leave me - and yea I guess I don't want that, thanks you guys:)

You need to remind yourself of this fact.

Men are not objects like books or cups. You cannot just pick one up and stuff him in your pocket and walk off.

Meaning... you CANNOT steal a man against his will. You CANNOT make him cheat unless he WANTS to cheat.

However YOU ARE WRONG TO SNOOP.
If you snoop and dislike what you see you only have yourself to blame.

He has the right to privacy. Claiming your "insecurity" as your motive ... just means you're trying to justify actions you know are wrong. Don't lie to yourself like that.

Show him some respect.

Because what I said was true... he can't be stolen against his will. But treating him without respect and snooping in his personal mail CAN give him the motivation to leave you.

Its normal for a girl to want their guy to find them the most fascinating woman and so awesome that he wouldn’t need to talk to any other girl - you would fulfill all of his needs and urges.... ideally.

However, just know that it is not a reflection of you not fulfilling his needs nor a determination of your inadequacy. He wouldn’t be with you if he didn’t want to be - you have to trust that. Furthermore, if you don’t feel fulfilled don’t be scared to recognize that.

If your that insecure u should not have a boyfriend: you need to work on yourself, realize that your worth having and thus stop thinking he will cheat.

Basically, the way you are acting, you are showing him that he may as well cheat as your not worth it.

So pull your head in, so to speak

Yeah I know I feel horrible! But I don't trust him tbh !... I know he loves me and shit but I know what he's capable of which makes me insecure ..if you get me

1. STOP snooping. Things out of context will make you paranoid and will make him feel violated as you are spying on him.
2. Guys can have female friends, and I'm pretty sure you would hate it if he gave you trouble over your friends.
3. TALK to him. Explain your fears, let him tell you they are unfounded then move on... Try to have some parts of your life that ate apart from him so that you don't drive him crazy and smother him.

Example. My partner has mainly female friends, oddly I have mostly male. But we trust each other. Also, we both have our own interests to focus on so that we don't smother each other.
Good luck

Some say something please lol! I'm seriously obsessed now

You wouldn't be so untrusting if you didn't feel yourself to be secretly inadequate. He's probably having sex with her while you post questions on the internet

Stop dipping into his life if he finds out he wwilll dump ur sorry ass let him be