Is it normal that i get annoyed by my friend's behavior?

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I'll try to keep this on the short side. I have a good friend who I went out with shortly but things ended and now we're friends just as before. However, I believe she is and has always been conceited about her looks. She'll talk to me about how nice her butt is or what friends have said about her butt, or just talks about her looks in general. I find this very inconsiderate since I used to like her myself and MOST of the feelings are gone. Sure she does look quite good and has a nice butt but what good will me telling or agreeing with her on that do now except for feeding her ego? She already knows what I've thought at one point so she doesn't need to hear it again. I usually give this topic no response and continue about something else.

I have no desire to date her again and she is a pretty good friend for the most part being a gamer and a fun conversationist but I can't help but be annoyed by this.

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  • ProseAthlete
    10 years ago

    Considering that I can't think of a duller topic of conversation than how nice one of the conversationalist's butt is, I'd say you're completely normal. That sounds insufferable.

    Start talking about how unbelievably hot your tonsils are or how much you love the way your uvula wiggles when you sing or how much effort you put into grooming your toe hair. Maybe she'll get the message.

    You could also try giving her interesting facts about defecation every time she talks about her butt. "Hey, speaking of your butt, did you know that you carry 3 to 5 pounds of bacteria in your intestinal tract?" "While we're talking about your ass, do you know why poo is brown? Bilirubin and biliverdin!" "Oh, speaking of your butt, were you aware that some people wipe standing up?"

    I guarantee you that reminding her she poops from there will get her to stop talking to you about her butt.

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    • AbnormallyAwesome
      10 years ago

      That was actually quite entertaining ... and informative. I'd totally have a butt conversation with you.

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      • ProseAthlete
        10 years ago

        And I would totally have one with you! Butts are actually pretty fascinating, but not only for the reason the OP's shallow friend thinks.

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  • NotStrangeBird
    10 years ago

    Always talk about her butt or other miscellaneous looks & asthetics in the past tense.

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  • bubbles6669420
    10 years ago

    she just wants your attention! girls don't bring up those things unless they want attention. sounds to me like she still has feelings here and there... may not admit it or seem like, but if she wants to be the topic of conversation with you 24/7, she wants you to recognize her like you once did.

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  • Jayemen
    7 years ago

    Just tell her..Enough about your ass already..I know, I've seen it, it's great, but I'm over it. Had a similar thing with former work/business associate. We were good friends and spent a lot of time together, and, while she was hot and cute, had a thing for her own ass. Would wear jeans, short skirts, and form-fitting pants, often pointing out how she looked in them and what guys would say to her. Often, too, she'd request my input.."My ass looks good in these, right?" or "Should I have worn my other skirt, the one that guys tell me my ass looks hot in?".

    She did have a great ass, and, due to the nature of my business and her helping me often, I got up-close to it several times (usually with her smiling and drawing attention to the situation), but..Even I got tired of hearing it. Yes, I know, Katie (name change), you have a perfect little ass that guys love..I see it every day. Now shut up about it.

    You need to do the same.

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  • loopoo
    10 years ago

    Sometimes I fucking hate my best friend. I swear we're better of without them, some friendships are just toxic.

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  • Truth_teller
    10 years ago

    ^^ LMAO!..... Following his advice would just make you come off as an extremist realist. She will think you are weird and potentially like you less for that, just tell her to "calm down" every time she says something unnecessary(*and stop listening to her). She will get the hint that butt conversations are unacceptable around you.

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    • suckonthis9
      10 years ago

      Please do not use textese, where it does not belong.

      Thank you.

      Please do not use -ists or -isms.

      Thank you.

      What is an extremely real person?
      What is an extremely real personality?

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  • suckonthis9
    10 years ago

    Your friend is fun and exceptional in her conversational abilities. You also excel in this respect, mostly.

    Please do not use -ists or -isms.

    Thank you.

    Yes, your friend is somewhat conceited, but she will need to recast this image of herself in time, as youthful good looks are fleeting.
    Often, but not always, she will end up looking much like her mother and / or grandmother. You can use this, with discernment, as a gauge for her future appearance. She should endeavour for greater attributes, other than the simply superficial.

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