Is it normal that i get angrier when someone apologizes to me?

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I get more angrier if someone wronged me or did something to me by mistake. Eg. someone accidentally closed the elevator while I was in the middle of the door trying to get in but they're apologized, or worse, someone breaks my stuff or hurts me heavily, physically.

For some reason I mostly feel that saying sorry to me just won't do and there had to be some sort of retribution or repayment. And I think apologizing is really pointless since the damage has been done and saying that doesn't even do anything.

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  • (s)aint
    7 years ago

    I get that feeling a lot.

    To me the worst thing is that I feel like I have no right to keep being angry with someone.
    If they were wrong and admitted it i´d be a cunt to keep the discussion going just because I was angry.

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    • RoseIsabella
      7 years ago

      You have a right to be angry if you still feel angry. I think you have the right to your emotions. You can choose to forgive a person when you're good and ready if you feel so inclined. Don't let anyone pressure you into whatever.

      I know I'm a Christian and all, but I honestly hate when someone says, "please forgive me", instead of just saying they're sorry, or a simple, "I apologize". I'm trying to get used to just saying something like, "I appreciate your apology", it might make me sound like a douche, but I don't care. I don't like feeling pressured to respond to someone a certain way.

      It's a weird thing, because I've always just said I was sorry for the most part. It's few and far between that I practically beg for someone's forgiveness. I figure it's up to them, and it's their choice; it's basically not my place to pressure the other person one way or another.

      Sorry for the crazy rant, but I hate feeling pressured. I dunno, I think some people are manipulative in their communication so as to assuage their guilt.

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      • (s)aint
        7 years ago

        IT´s fine! I´ve always liked to discuss with you. The thing with me is that my emotions and feelings are all over the place for the smallest of things. So I guess I rarely feel entitled to the negative emotions?

        I completely get that with serious things people don´t automatically deserve forgiveness.
        But like the case with me and my boyfriend yesterday (We both have ADHD);

        I had helped him shift some stuff about in his apartment to make it more roomy before a party and he accuses me of putting his sunglasses somewhere because he couldn´t find them.
        I was pretty sure I didn´t touch them, he was annoyed.

        He found them and appologized.

        Seeing as I didn´t want to continue this small thing I said "Yeah, said so. It was comfortable having someone to blame for your forgetfulness right?" I felt like continuing and raging but settled with telling him I needed to cool off, but appreciated the appology.

        Especially when it´s usually me who goes off over small things, I feel like I owe him to let some things slip when he´s usually the calm and collected one.

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