Is it normal that i flirt and then abandon a relationship?

I've met people like you. I don't really kniow what's wrong, but I'd advise self-control, until you find someone you'd like to be with.
Unfortunately, you do hurt people. Maybe it's not massive psychological damage, but it still sucks when people behave that way.

So you're the bitch that does that to others! How heartless!

Get therapy.

Is it normal that I would bet the OP is almost certainly a woman?

Very few people like this behavior, work on improving yours!

You like the thrill of the chase but you do not want the prey. It is kind of like a cat that will kill things even if it will not eat it. You might like to play and to flirt but you are just playing. To you it is all a game and once you think you have won the game you find no more fun in it. I think you are looking for a challenge and maybe use your skill else where. Try sales they need people like this.

It sounds to me as if you're empowered by the feeling of attention but aren't ready for the commitment of a relationship. I can understand the appeal of living like that, but sadly you do end up hurting people.

Congratulations, you are what's wrong with this world.

Thank you everyone for your feedback. It's all really helpful even though some of you are a little more blunt.

Some of these comments are just extremely rude. It's easy to judge others over the Internet but difficult for sone to walk in others shoes. I completely understand where you're coming from. You're not the only girl that has been there. It's healthy to flirt and date around when you can. Most people make the big mistake of getting married to the first person that look there way then years later regret not doing the whole flirting and dating thing when they could. So, I say keep doing what you're doing. It's fine to flirt but do not tell the boy anything that will make him think you are in love with him or have a future with him. Also, try doing more things for yourself by yourself. Try to exit guys out of your life little by little if you want to fix this problem. It will make you feel a lot better. I hope things work out. (and if you are not a girl, sorry)

You aren't what is wrong with the world. Actually, you seem to need more confidence. You've got the first part down- the flirting. But you need to work on the relationship part. Maybe try a penpal or internet friend. Be careful, don't give out info. But be friendly. Then go to work or somewhere and make a real life friend. Then try the flirting, and a relationship. Don't give up. Give people a chance, and give yourself a chance, too.

I use to be like that when I was younger, then I realized I was hurting people. So I stopped dating for a couple years and gave myself some time to mature emotional. After that the first relationship I was in was long term.

Wow I think a lot of people are being overly judgmental on your post, you don't sound like a bad person, but it does sound like you have some issues you need to figure out and work on. For a long time after I got out of a particularly bad relationship I did exactly the same thing. I would really want to move on, would meet a guy I was interested in flirt, message them, go on a date or two(in fact sometimes I would feel the guy was interested in sex and nothing more and would abandon them before going on a date) but as things got to a certain point it's like I just couldn't continue...in everyone I found an excuse: one guy got stroppy when I didn't couldn't go out with him that night-so I decided he was probably a control freak, etc, etc. I think I liked the idea of having a relationship, or getting intimate with somebody but was simply not in an emotional place to actually be able do it. However the fact is the other comments are right, this kind of behavior is hurtful, and it isn't acceptable. I managed to take this on board and spent some time doing just me, and working out my issues until I felt ready to give somebody a PROPER chance.Spending some time doing you until you're ready to give somebody a proper chance might be a good idea too.

So what are you trying to say?

That you're knowingly retarded?

That you waste both your own time as well as others instead of having sex?

Sounds really fun....not.

Sometimes it's not an intimacy thing though. I as far as I know have always been like that, and I always backed out when I felt like the relationship would be wrong, like I wasn't good enough for her, or she isn't right for me and I would hurt her. She says she doesn't know why she does it so give her a chance to figure out why.

People are often attracted to each other but few are capable of loving each other. Maybe she senses this early that no real love can come out of these relationships.

To be honest though I'm start to believe less and less that love is at first sight and that you learn to love others after you get to know them.

It's almost like you're afraid of becoming close to someone. Try to get over the feeling and try to follow through with your intentions.

I used to be like that with a few girls. Until I met the one I loved the most and probably because of my past behavior, she doesnt believe me. We texted daily for 6-7 months and I confessed to her and she just wants to be friends. I never signed up to be just her friend, and we havent talked for a month since, looks like we'll never talk again. What goes around comes around, karma or whatever you want to call it, I believe it now. I know how it feels and it is not a good feeling. I'd suggest you try to have some self-control, it'll come and bite you back, but I guess this is how some of us learn...

I thumbed up all the people before me.

Really, you gotta control that kinda behavior. You might not realize it, but I'm certain you're definitely hurting these people that you do that to.

I have to admit, I do something similar. I pretend to be interested in people that are interested in me, just to see if I can.