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I find so weird to have people touching me. Everytime someone touches me I wonder why they're doing it. I also think: "How they have "courage" to touch me"?
I think that I'm disgusting, even though I take care of myself.
Depending on what kind touching it's probably normal. However, thinking you're disgusting is not. Your actual problem seems to be your low self-esteem. But I think you already knew that.
Yes,I do have a low self-esteem. You did you guess it?
But what it has do with my dislike for being touched?
Well, you said it yourself. You feel disgusting. Touching is a form of intimacy and you feel unconfortable in those situations. You seem to assume people puke on the inside when they're close to you, so even though nothing really happened, your subconscious tells you to be ashamed of yourself.
Therefore the touching thing is probably just a symptom of your lack of self-esteem. Where that comes from I can not tell you. Maybe someone told you, you weren't good enough, maybe you were abused, or maybe you suffer from a chemical imbalance in your brain (like a depression).
If you want to know I'd suggest you see a psychologist.
I don`t mind being patted on the hand by a friend or rellative, but strangers who touch are very creepy.
"I find so weird to have people touching me. Everytime someone touches me I wonder why they're doing it. I also think: "How they have "courage" to touch me"?
I think that I'm disgusting, even though I take care of myself."
Join the club.
From your post I'm going to assume you're a girl and probably a pretty cute one so when guys touch you they're flirting. Some girls do that also to flirt.
I'm a guy but when younger people liked touching me a lot too and I couldn't stand it. It's mostly a way people try to seduce you. Guys touch girls to let them know they want sex.
The only people I like being touched by are girls I want to sleep with.
When a girl I don't like touches me I don't like it either because of :
1. I'm kind of a germaphobe but not really. I'm educated. If you knew how disgustingly dirty people's hands and bodies are and what viruses, bacteria, etc. they carry you wouldn't like being randomly touched as well especially with all the crazy super-bugs diseases, etc. that go around. Literally someone's touch can get you sick. No thanks.
Some people are disgusting. They pick their noises then touch other people, they use the bathroom and don't wash their hands then shake hands/touch others, it's gross and unhealthy.
2. When a girl I don't like touches me and keeps touching me I'm put into a bad situation : I have to let her know I don't like her sexually and that can be uncomfortable. I don't like hurting people especially girls.
Sometimes guys like touching me too, it's very strange and uncomfortable:
3. Guys sometimes try to touch me also. They're probably gay. I do know gay guys hit on me and I find it disgusting. I've literally had to tell people, "Hey don't touch me." or "Why are you touching me, I don't even know you. Stop it."
Now, the reason why I know I'm not a germaphobe with a problem is because when there is a girl I like and I flirt with her not only am I cool with her touching me but we usually hook up. We start making out in less than 30 minutes and often have sex later that night if we want.
So it's possible you have low self worth issues which might be affecting how you feel when you get touched but I doubt it.
Everyone has a personal space comfort zone and when it's violated and you don't know why it's not fun. As you said you don't even know why these people are touching you so it's insulting they're violating your personals space and body.
I doubt most people would be comfortable if a stranger just walked up to them and started kissing them. I wouldn't. It's a similar thing.
Your reactions make sense to me.
Do you like kissing and having sex with your significant other?
I bet you do.
Are you ok hugging someone you really like or care about?
I bet you are.
You're probably a cute girl and people want to get some from you.
Just read your comment
"I think the main problem is my skin. I have acne and blackheads. I take care of my skin but it doesn't dissapear. It's gross!
I also have parts of my body who are darker than others and it seems like they're dirty."
Acne is super easy to get rid of.
First change your lifestyle. Most Acne is caused by eating junk foods and drinking crap like soda. Also to get rid of blackheads they have products at the store. And guess what people are still attracted to you if they're touching you.
I'm way past teenager age and I still break out if I eat junk food or drink sodas. Normally my skin is as clear as it can be if I don't eat crap or drink crap.
Also you can use hydrogen peroxide on your acne to help kill the bacteria. You can also use hand sanitizer to do the same thing but don't do them at the same time. Also steam your face regularly.
So stop eating junk and drinking junk which causes the acne and put on some topical stuff to kill the bacteria so they clear up. Steam your face and wash it regularly to clean up the pores. If you do that in less than two months your acne will be gone.
I have a really fast system so my acne will be gone in less than two weeks and sometimes less if I do what I said.
Oh, also drink lots of water but never tap water, it's full of chemicals.
You're right at so many points!
Yes, I'm a girl. And I'm comfortable with people I know and I care about touching me.
You really understand my problem. And I will try to follow your advice.
Thank you.
:)
You are so welcome, glad I could help!
Please follow what I said about having healthy skin too it really works and it's basically free.
Skin is the biggest organ in/on the body. If you stop polluting your body your skin will stop breaking out. I doubt you really need a dermatologist. The medical association is a fraud in many ways so they don't want healthy people. They just want to make money off of us people by selling drugs, cutting things out of us or giving us some polluting 'treatment'. They are such morons they use radiation to kill cancer cells but they can't even target just the cancer cells so they end up destroying our immune systems and people often die. There are proven low cost natural 'cures' for cancer but because the medical association won't make any money on them they don't tell patients.
If you treat your body and mind right (don't stress out) then it will fix itself and you won't have acne. Your diet should consist of bottled water (not tap), raw or cooked organic vegetables and fruits. Just about everything you buy at a grocery store is polluted with chemicals and they are cumulative. Over time they build up and cause problems. Often times a person's skin shows this. Have you ever read a label of the things you eat? That's poison. Don't eat it. It's no wonder you and others break out or have serious health problems. Your body is just doing what it's told to do. You feed it poison and it shows the unhealthy results :(
Ps. When I was younger I even tried products like 'ProActive' and that crap made me break out even more!
If I eat healthy, drink lots of bottled water, steam my face at least once a week and get regular exercise my skin is blemish free and I never put any crap on my face.
I think you also mentioned something about having parts of your skin that is darker than the rest. I think a dermatologist could help with those kinds of things probably using a laser resurfacing technique or bleaching but be careful somethings they really screw things up.
Btw thanks so much for replying back and letting me know my advice helped you and that I understood your problem.
I enjoy helping others so I really appreciate your reply.
:)
I think what's the most strange about you is your improper use of English grammar.
why are they touching you? and i always disliked that kind of people, who "dont like to be touched" when it's just like a pat on the back or something. im sorry but get over yourself.. that is why we have all these stupid rules like you must ask someone if you may perform cpr on them to save their life or they can actually sue you afterwards..
Do you have a neurological disorder per chance. Many people on the Autism spectrum don't enjoy being touched.
I can't really make a judgement on whether or not you're disgusting. Why do you think you are disgusting?
I think I have a dirty appearence. It seems like no matter how I wash myself, I still look dirty.