Is it normal that i find sexual intimacy with girls disgusting

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Let me start with a disclaimer: I enjoy sex with females as much as the next person which means I'm positively not gay/asexual but I want to discuss this WEIRD sort of thing I have with the opposite sex.

The act of sexual penetration is enough for me: I want nothing to do with that female body once I've had my orgasm. I get called stuff like "weirdo", "insensitive jerk", "prick", "asshole", "misogynist", "male chauvinist", "faggot" by females all the time.

There have been times I was with a woman for 10 minutes and she simply punched me in the face and left. I was at this brothel where I asked this girl for a joint "shower"...I simply manhandled her a bit and she started crying. All prostitutes ganged up on me and gave me a terrible beating - just imagine being the guy in the brothel who gets a smack-down by hookers. All other customers are treated with respect.

So where does the problem lie - according to all the people around me, "I JUST DON'T GET INTIMACY".

Intimacy means girls enjoy all this kissing, hugging and foreplay stuff and that has escaped me totally. I managed to go steady with one girl for 2 years only because she understood that I don't enjoy intimacy. None of my other relationships lasted more than a week, a month at best and 2-3 days or even hours on average. I manage to screw up things badly and get the cue that this girl will now HATE me, FOREVER.

All right so there's a new girl in my life and I positively don't want to screw it up. But if we go ahead, there are things she'd want me to do which I haven't done in a very long time.

* HOLDING HANDS TOGETHER - I feel that's gay even when there's a girl around you. As a general rule, I hate touching people, women are no exception. "I'd rather get down to sex as quickly as possible. "

* SPENDING MOMENTS TOGETHER IN SILENCE- I run out of patience quickly. "I'd rather get down to sex as quickly as possible. "

* HAVING A HEART-TO-HEART CONVERSATION - Are you kidding me? I hate having deep conversations with women. I also hate listening to their issues."I'd rather get down to sex as quickly as possible. "

* KISSING - I hate Kissing! It's the most disgusting act in the universe - imagine exchanging your saliva with someone who may not have brushed her teeth properly. "I'd rather get down to sex as quickly as possible. "

* DINING TOGETHER - I hate going to a fancy restaurant with a girl, spending all that hard-earned money and doing nothing. "I'd rather get down to sex as quickly as possible. "

I have discussed this issue with friends and they say I was probably hated by my mother as an infant. Girls say "I lack respect for WOMEN and only know to treat them as sex objects". I don't if they're right - I do watch a lot of pornography, enjoy sado-masochism and obsessed with prostitutes.

I DO LOVE women but in a weird sort of way. I obviously want to get married and have kids.

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  • anti-hero
    9 years ago

    Tell me about your childhood. Tell me about you abuser...

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  • miskris
    9 years ago

    You've got a plethora of issues, man. Sorry to say it so bluntly but...yeah. Go see a therapist.

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  • Nokiot9
    9 years ago

    You are totally objectifying women as purely things of sexual energy. The point of intimacy is to forge a deeper connection than just sex can by its self. It doesn't sound that that is something that interests you. That's probably why ur obsessed with hoes. U don't gotta take them out to dinner and listen to their problems and shit to get ur rocks off. The thing is, most women have a difficult time separating emotion from sexual contact. It's a genetic left over from like a million years ago, it's meant to make sure they don't get knocked up and abandoned by someone that wasn't a proper suitor. The emotional connection does more to insure the offspring has 2 providers and a better chance of living to pass their genes on, than the sex it's self. You can't expect most women to just throw their clothes on right after you get off and go smoke a cigarette. They want to cuddle, and run their hands across your skin, and kiss your neck. If you've ever really fallen in love, you would understand. That there is so much more than sex and what's on the surface.

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  • wistfulmaiden
    9 years ago

    If you think about it long enough, all human bodily functions including sex are pretty disgusting.
    Stop overthinking...or get yourself a blow up dummy.

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  • ShadoClone
    8 years ago

    It just sounds like you're avoiding anything based on emotional commitment and too lazy to care. You get laid and you're happy.

    Maybe you got burned too many times or maybe you really don't connect with your partners because you aren't looking at their minds or hearts.

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  • anon2189
    8 years ago

    The girls are kind of right when they say you treat the as sex objects. It seems like the only thing you ever want is to get off...but it doesn't sound like you're intentionally objectifying them, you just don't like sexual intimacy, and in my opinion that's okay. However, things like kissing, holding hands, and dining together are what girls want, and the fact that you're completely opposed to any sort of bonding or relationship in general is a little strange. I know a lot of people who really don't like physical contact with others, but they make up for it and show their appreciation for their significant other through emotional contact. Since you don't do that, I completely understand how girls feel like they're being used. I don't know, your feelings toward women are kind of abnormal, you might want to get some therapy. Also, I think marriage makes sense completely, but kids might not be the best option. I mean, kids strongly desire the affection of their parents, and I don't know if you feel the same way toward children as you do to women, but with out some sort of emotional connection to their father, your kids are going to feel neglected.

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  • dasugaknows
    9 years ago

    Why would you want kids?

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  • ToxicCrayons
    9 years ago

    Autism?

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  • slightlystoopiid
    9 years ago

    Have you told her you liked her or feel this way? I'm gonna assume the answer is no, because if you did and she likes you back, genuinely likes you, then she'd deff be willing to try and work through these issues. Also is it a matter of you can't compromise on these things, or do you think you just need to get more used to them and then you could possibly enjoy it? You need to be vocal with this to her.

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  • Schmooblydong
    9 years ago

    Is your real name Quagmire?

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  • Fall_leaves
    9 years ago

    Cut back on the porn maybe? Give just being friends with girls a try, like doing normal things like watching a movie marathon or playing frisbee golf. Ultimately sex is just sex, it loses it's allure when that's your main focus.

    I don't think that makes you an asshole though? It's just disrespectful to your partner, if you could change your attitude towards women after sex and be respectful I think you would get a more positive reaction. Some women like being a sex object during the act of sex but that doesn't mean they don't want to be appreciated after sex.

    Like maybe if you're dating the girl, give her a kiss on the cheek or hug just to let her know you appreciate her? I don't think that's too much to ask after sex. Also maybe cut back on the prostitutes, you're going for women that see sex as nothing more than their job. You might have a better sexual experience with a girl that's willing to play out your fantasies but gets more into it because she has feelings for you and is willing to do anything you want without asking for money afterwards.

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  • olive_smh
    9 years ago

    You should probably never get married....or have kids....just sayin'

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