Is it normal that i find sex disgusting even though i'm a virgin?

I'm a virgin girl. But I'm curious about sex and I did some research about it. So, I came to the conclusion that sex is gross,weird and dangerous.
I'm not judging anybody, but I just don't understand why people say it's good, healthy and natural.
I'm disgusted by it. And I'm almost sure that I will never be able to be intimate with someone.

Is it normal to have these thoughts even though I never had sex?

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  • thegypsysailor

    Wow. I'm having a hard time trying to say something that might be useful.
    Instead of thinking about the sexual act, perhaps you could imagine the pleasure you might get from the intimacy of having a really close friend you love and care for and who loves you and cares for you, too. Someone to hold you and support you when you are sad, lonely or having a bad day. Someone to hold your hand when you walk down the street, surrounded by strangers.
    Someone to take hikes with, share a meal or just talk about your day with; a partner and friend in life.
    Believe me, when everything is right, the sex part will take care of itself; you won't give it a second thought. Until then, just allow yourself the pleasure of human companionship.
    I hope this helps.

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    • Yes, it helps. I will think about everything you said and maybe I will change my mind.

      Thank you.

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  • Couman

    What do you mean "even though"? That sounds like something a virgin would be MORE likely to think. But because people who think that are more likely to stay virgins and people who never try sex are less likely to understand the appeal.

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  • yesnomaybeso

    I think that the title should be "i find sex digusting BECAUSE i'm a virgin"
    when i was one / was younger it scared me too... i think your point of view will change soon though.
    because when you're actually having sex, i guess it's with a person you're attracted to, so you don't find it gross at all.

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    • GoraIntoDesiGals

      Beat me to it

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      • yesnomaybeso

        ;)

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  • Anime7

    I could see how you could see that. I do usually just skip the actual penetration whenever I watch porn. I'm a virgin to but I know what you mean by it being gross. It just looks weird; I imagine that since you're girl it also probably looks painful. But we're humans and we have urges and it's totally normal. Just look at eating, have you seen how some people chew their food? They just keep stuffing their faces and not caring about whatever drippings get on their shirts. It can be disgusting. Yet it's human and natural to want to eat and enjoy your food. I'd imagine that sex is kind of like that, where it's not all rough and crude, but it can be beautiful and a gentle experience for both the people involved. Just because it's on a porno, doesn't mean that it happens in real life, says my friend who isn't a virgin.

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    • I totally understand what you mean. You have an interesting point of view. I'm thinking about what you said.

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      • Anime7

        Just trying to say that sex isn't like how it is in the pornos. I mean I still get how you could think it gross. And I like can totally understand what you mean. But its something that like can be totally special when shared with someone you care about.

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        • I hope it will be special.

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          • Anime7

            I think we all do, for our first time at least.

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            • Exactly.

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    • tripw7

      you have such an excellent way of expressing yourself on many subjects. I can only hope that she will eventually understand what you said and how you said it will let her enjoy all that she will want with having sex.

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      • Anime7

        Hey thanks man. Yeah I was kind of just hoping to get across how I can empathize with the OP and how like what you see on a porno isn't really how it goes in reality, like I said a friend told me that. But it sounds true. If the OP still views sex as gross, since advice can only go so far, then really it wouldn't be a problem. Either ways, it's her life, and people like what they like. As gross as sex looks, I'm sure that it can look beautiful. I've actually seen some people take the time to chew their food and enjoy each bite, as opposed to just stuffing their face.

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  • kennag123

    Once you loose your virginity you won't think it's gross anymore haha

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  • swagplayboybunnie77

    Your never know what its like if you never had sex , the internet doesn't eplain how it feels and yeah it some times be bad if you get a STD or end up being pregnant but it feels GREAT x

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  • Caryopteris

    It's all about hormones. Like I have never been pregnant and can't understand how baby crazy some women are. They must have higher baby hormones than I do. Maybe if I got pregnant my hormones would kick in, but I can't imagine wanting a baby. Ever. I see that picture of the Gerber baby and I think, Gee, what an ugly baby.

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    • Yes, you're probably right.

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  • pacinoharmon

    I'm a virgin, I don't think sex is dirty or anything, I just don't have much desire to have it. But if I find the right person I may change my mind. Maybe you will change your mind someday, or perhaps you're an asexual, which there's nothing wrong with.

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress

    It depends on your age.

    When you've not experienced the flush of romance or the pleasure of being in someone else's arms like that... then you also don't know what you're missing.

    Granted I'm not saying go out and get laid either. Just wait until you're ready. You may find that your tastes and desires change as you get older.

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  • Shrunk

    Same. but sometimes grossness is hawt ;D

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    • I don't understand why is hawt.

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      • Shrunk

        I'm guessing you're still young. I didn't understand it then, either. I still don't completely...

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        • Yes, I'm young. And I think I will never understand it. At least you understand something.

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  • hairyfairy

    I wish that I`d stayed a virgin, because sex is gross & dirty, & it leaves women with a nasty fish paste smell down below.

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  • maeva

    you could be asexual.

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    • I thought about that. But I don't know how can I be sure if I am asexual or not. And people say "how can you dislike sex if you never tried it?"

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  • kingofthetropics

    i think it depends on your age.
    if you're a 10 year old going through emotions, then yes it's normal.

    if you're, say, 15 or older... see a therapist maybe?

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