Is it normal that i find love manipulative?

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According to numerous studies, love is not even an emotion but a manipulation tool used by your brain to force reproduction. 1 out of 2 marriages end as a divorce and there is only 1 year of "Good relationship" because after time, it all fades away and you no longer feel anything.

I currently got into such a relationship and I am doing everything I can to force myself out of it. I am planting sticky notes all over my computer and I write on them "You are getting manipulated by your own brain".

I know it sounds crazy but I know for sure that I am not thinking straight when in love. I want to stay myself and I do not want to be a puppet of my own needs and immagination. Brain of someone in love can be compared to the brain of a coke addict. You constantly check for messages on your phone, you feel anxiety when you miss them, you feel depressed when there is a lack of sex.

I mean if you aproach it this way... "Rationally" then it is not as good as most people make it out to be.

Is what I am doing normal or did I lose my mind?

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  • CountessDouche
    8 years ago

    Love is a chemical reaction in the brain, created by oxitocin, dopamine, serotonin...but so is every emotion. Every feeling is nothing more than brain chemistry...reward, satisfaction, satiation, desire. That doesn't make any of those feelings less valid or real or amazing or profound or beautiful. You should probably stop trying to overanalyse your feelings and just let yourself enjoy them.

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  • [Old Memory]
    8 years ago

    I often think relationships are over rated as I watch society obsess over finding that perfect match and loose their minds over romantic situations.

    What I have realized is much of what people call love is not love.

    Love is not neediness. Love is not jealousy. Love is not obsession. Love is not lust. Love is not doing everything for someone either. Many of the things people think are love are unhealthy and damaging towards everyone involved.

    What love is, is very simple. It is caring about someone or something to where you do things for each other, but it must also be a two way exchange where both parties actively care about each other.

    You don't even have to be around someone to love them. They can be in another country and you can still care about them. Really you don't even have to interact with them.

    Never think that needing someone is love, nor is it love to enable someone by doing everything for them.

    I don't understand what is wrong with most people and why they do these things. Sometimes people accuse me of not caring about them when I do and sometimes people say I lack emotions, but I often feel like one of the few rational ones in an emotionally unstable neurotic society.

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  • deshikd
    8 years ago

    Then why do we love our family or anyone else? Don't overthink things like this. If you get far enough into it you'll just realize that your entire brain and decision making process isn't in your control. Free will is a delusion, and life is pointless.

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    • Short4Words
      8 years ago

      Lol

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  • Unimportant
    8 years ago

    Love is injustice in its absolute form. (c)Levi

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  • RoyRogers
    8 years ago

    Well it kind of is. We play all these games to impress and win people over. It is manipulative. When you get a woman/Man we say that we "Scored". When someone dates more than one person and lead people on they are called "Players". So we even use "game" metaphor to describe it.

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  • Arm0se
    8 years ago

    I've been in love before, but never felt the urge to reproduce with that person, in fact quite the opposite as I did not want to dirty my image of them \(._.)/

    People often mistake lust and infatuation for love. It feels like it at first, but love lasts much much longer.

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