Is it normal that i find it hard to trust people?

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I don't have very many friends. That is by choice. I find it very difficult to trust people, and generally don't like the way people act in large groups. Not everyone, just most people. I've also been bullied and fucked over a lot, as well as witnessed the **** things people do to each other. As a result, I have one close friend and my boyfriend at college. Lots of friendly acquaintances, but I take a while to let people in. Am I normal?

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  • howaminotmyself
    11 years ago

    I think many people feel the way you do. I am not that person. I did have a friend betray me recently and I refused to let that experience color my judgment of others. I won't trust them again, but I also won't let it prevent me from obtaining close relationships with others.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    Trust no one.

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    • MissyLeyneous
      11 years ago

      I don't agree. I think OP is normal, and even sensible. You can put some degree of trust into those closest to you... You can place no trust in those you don't know so well... But you can place complete trust in yourself.

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      • Terence_the_viking
        11 years ago

        They are out to get you.

        The minute you trust is the minute they destroy you.

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        • MissyLeyneous
          11 years ago

          Not always.

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          • Shackleford96
            11 years ago

            I agree with you here.

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          • Terence_the_viking
            11 years ago

            Oh if only you knew.

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  • michaels4p5
    11 years ago

    yeah i trust you.

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  • DADNSCAL
    11 years ago

    Uncle Will Saudi it best:
    Those friends thou hast, and their adoption tried,
    Grapple them to thy soul with hoops of steel;
    But do not dull thy palm with entertainment
    Of each new-hatch'd, unfledged comrade.

    In other words, don't throw your friendship around like it's cheap.

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  • Ldizzy1234
    11 years ago

    I can't say whether its really normal or not, because its probably really not healthy. But I'm the same way. I've had a lot of issues with many people in the past, and now, I pretty much keep people at arms length because of it.

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  • xXxPhantomxXx
    11 years ago

    Exactly how I am from past experiences of bein bullied except I don't have any friends that I hang out with. Just people I talk to at work and family ofc. But your experiences in life make you the way you are IMO.

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