Is it normal that i find charging my friends a bit wrong?

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Hello,

Me and my friend are organizing a barbeque and we're going to invite around 15 of our friends. He wants to calculate the exact costs (meat+drinks+extras) and divide by the number of guests and charge everyone. I find this idea a bit cold/unfriendly and believe that we should invite them without asking them to pay but be ready to accept their voluntary contributions. Charging your friends just feels wrong. And no, I'm not significantly richer than my friend.

Is the way I feel normal?

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Based on 37 votes (29 yes)
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  • handsignals
    9 years ago

    wow, what a tight ass, it will be interesting to see if anyone turns up.

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    If it were my party I wouldn't charge them for food, but I would them know they're welcome to bring alcohol and pot. I see where your friend is coming from though. When I'm invited to a party if I can afford it I like to bring a nice bottle of booze or two to share and or as a housewarming gift to the host.

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  • dom180
    9 years ago

    I don't usually charge my friends either. When me and my housemates have hosted or organized parties for our friends, there has been a policy that food will be provided for free (although we expect everyone to bring their own drinks) and we will accept voluntary donations in the form of money, additional food and helping clean up afterwards. The system doesn't usually get abused, and we like hosting anyway so we're happy to do it for free. If your friends are good people they won't take advantage of your kindness.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    I would not feel comfortable charging my friends for that, in fact, I wouldn't even accept "donations". If one can't afford to throw such a bbq, then don't do it, but to charge or accept money from friends is very low class. You could make it a byob, though, which would ease your financial burden some, without being tasteless, and that way everyone has what they prefer to drink.

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  • Fall_leaves
    9 years ago

    Yeah, I could understand if it was a party with a lot of people but not a barbecue with friends. Maybe you should talk to him, I'm sure your friends would be willing to pay for some of it but it's not their barbecue. It's like inviting someone over and charging them for everything they used.

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