Is it normal that i find being around my family massively tedious

It is "normal", that is how I answered...but, it is not right. You are 19 year old dude. Most 19 year old dudes are self-absorbed douche-bags, which it sounds like you might sort of be.

You should try to make some regular "family time", no matter how tedious it seems to you.

Do you ever wonder how "tedious" your parents found it to actually provide you a home, feed you, bathe you, take care of you, sacrifice their arses-off for you when you were growing up??? I bet they found it to be MAJOR tedium....but, they DID it!!!

Stop being a little whiny maggot, and start appreciating your heritage before they are dead and gone!!! That includes Aunts, Uncles, Grandparents (if you are still lucky enough to have a few of them around), Sisters, Brothers, Cousins....your dog.....the whole damn family!!! Doing a few chores around the house won't hurt you, in fact, some day, you'll be doing them for yourself, so, it is good practice.

We don't get to "choose" our family, and, I hear what you say about conversation, and what appears to be a "lecture"...it is good intended, and, you might want to listen a bit, see if your hearing the very things that might do you some good. Someone else mentioned the conversations never being about "them". Well, welcome to how 95% of all people communicate! Everyone, and that includes your family, live inside their own worlds, they are the center of their own universe. It is very hard for us to "break out" and think about the others around us. The best way for you to NOT get sucked into their ways is to lead by example. Be the guy who asks questions...is intrigues by what they say. My father is still alive and well at 83, and, although I have heard most of his stories a thousand times, I still get something new out of them, especially if I start asking him questions about "what was that like?" I am on the road for a living, and, it helps make the miles go by easier and faster when I am deep into conversation with someone, and, the best way to do that is to talk about something that interests THEM! Hopefully, it interests you as well, and, that is when you can ACTUALLY share conversations.

As you have noted, life is not permanent. Try to surround yourself with people who have common interests as you, and, let them talk....you will NEVER run out of things to discuss.

I know exactly how you feel. My parents and I have nothing in common, strange thing is, I feel EXACTLY the same way as you, I would like to be able to make excuses, but I can't do that because my mother is too overprotective, so I just stick in my headphones and ignore everyone for as long as possible.

Sometimes who we get as relatives turns out great and sometimes it is just an accident of birth.

I know how you feel, to me its normal because I'm the same way. I have nothing in common with most of my family, so I avoid going to any family events. When I do bring up stuff with my interests then end up babbling on about pointless stuff an talking it down or changing the subject back to them. It's sorta like talk about what they want or nothing at all, so I just don't bother anymore. I'm 21 now and these things still happen so the talk I have with my family is kept to a minimal.