Is it normal that i feel useless next to anyone/everyone else?

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For example, my boyfriend was talking about his sister-in-law being really bright. I got straight A's all through school and am about to go and study psychology at the top university in the country. But as soon as he said that, I felt really rubbish, like nothing I do will ever be good enough, and like a failure. I can't ever see a bright future, maybe because of my past- my dad has schizophrenia and favouritised my little sister all the time, despite all I did to help him, I've had anorexia in the past, I still suffer with bulimia, I have OCD, I was in an abusive relationship for three years where I was stood in front of a mirror, criticised for being fat, told I'd never have a future, among other types of abuse. Whenever anybody mentions anybody else achieving something that I want to get to, I feel depressed knowing I won't be able to. It's not jealousy, like I want to be them or anything. I just feel very sad and like it's another failure to add to the list. Does anyone else feel like this? Is it normal?

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  • Captain_Kegstand
    11 years ago

    I'm sorry to hear this. An emotionally abusive parent can have an adverse effect on you for the rest of your life! I have been there myself. However, at some point you need to see yourself for all of your positive values. Nobody's perfect, but you seem intelligent, and driven, and like quite a nice person. Cheer up!

    *hugs*

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    • freeasair
      11 years ago

      aw, thank you =)

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  • Justsomejerk
    11 years ago

    You have a shitty past but you are obviously gifted. I don't know anyone who got straight A's all through school. Thanks for making the rest of us feel useless. J

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  • joybird
    11 years ago

    You'd be very hard work if no-one around you can dare to mention anyone else being good at something!

    You need to take their comments for what they are. It is not always about you, or a direct attack on you, it's just someone making a little conversation.

    You seriously need to work on this and hopefully your course will help you to understand that there is a bigger picture.

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  • sassafrassi
    11 years ago

    You really are like me if I think you are who you are. My mom has schizophrenia, although her favoritism of me was a bad thing. I'm thinking about studying psychology too. Sometimes I'll start to think it's impossible because I'm not smart enough to do it or I'll fail. Sometimes I think I should break up with my boyfriend before I end up like my mom and ruin his life.

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  • dappled
    11 years ago

    It's obvious from your post that you are intelligent. But also that you place way too much stock in the opinions of others. Perhaps you even seek bad relationships because it's what you have grown accustomed to, and that you need to hear about how great other people are because it hurts you and reinforces the attitudes of the most important male relationship of your early life.

    I'm sure you are bright enough to realise other people's achievements aren't even the slightest reflection on you and should have virtually no effect. Also, that they're having an effect because you're making them have an effect.

    I don't know how you turn something like this around but perhaps your studies will give you a better answer than any of us can.

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  • Allistalla
    11 years ago

    I do too .

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  • SLAYERoftheWICKED
    11 years ago

    im sooo sorry.

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