Is it normal that i feel used by girls?

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So I just turned 25 and I just feel like girls don't like me as more then anything just a friend. I haven't had a girlfriend since 2006, only about two girls have said they've liked me in the 6 years, one of them I didn't like as more then a friend and the other was too aggressive and I thought it was odd that I knew her for only a little bit (a few days), and she was so sprung.

I guess long story short is that, girls will sleep in my bed with me, or will want to talk to me, and spend time with me. Everyone will say "it looks like you two are dating" Even hold hands and all that stuff, but they always treat me like a friend. It hurts, I don't know if I should just be straight up, or if I should just wait for the right one. It kind of makes me feel undesired and even used. And a lot of girls I run into are aggressive, but to be honest I'm not interested in just having a one-night stand, and typically these girls who are aggressive aren't that interesting or good looking, and would sleep with anybody.

The last girl I liked who reciprocated said "she didn't feel that way," and she would just hook up with me when we'd be out together drinking, and then she would be a complete bitch, bailing on me if we were supposed to meet up, even started getting real intimate with another guy in front of me and all my friends embarrassing me.

It's just annoying when you get an "I Miss you" text or an "I love you" text from some girl who is just your friend. I just feel like girls use me emotionally and physically, I want to say I miss you or I love you, to someone who sees me as more then just a friend and I haven't in a very long time. Is this normal?

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Based on 42 votes (30 yes)
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  • SoccerStud88
    12 years ago

    if you aren't getting your P in their V it's probably because you're the typical "nice guy". Try acting more like an asshole...or ATLEAST develop a damn spine already.

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    • KokoroComplex
      12 years ago

      "P in their V"... lol, that's cute.

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    • KokoroComplex
      12 years ago

      Not being a coward and being a dick are two different things, lmao.

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      • SoccerStud88
        12 years ago

        both will get you chicks. it's your choice which way you wanna go.

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        • KokoroComplex
          12 years ago

          Yes, but each of them differs in what kind of chicks you get. You can get a slutty chick that all she wants is sex, or a chick who doesn't like living in that lifestyle. That's the difference. Just like girls can be sluts and get certain guys, or not be sluts and get different guys.

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          • willybeamish
            12 years ago

            yeah, I mean I get it, don't be a punk, and be more assertive. In my line of work I actually meet a lot of girls, talk to a lot, and what-not. It's hard for me to get a girl to like come over and hang out, or like go out on a date with me. But it's easy for me to get with them randomly at a party or something. It's just not what I'm into anymore. It's possible I need to meet other girls maybe outside of what I'm used to.

            I'm def. not the type of guy who walks into a room or randomly approaches a girl to ask her out. But then the girls I do end up getting into that situation end up just being my friend. And then I have this annoying girl hitting me up all the time about hanging out doing date-like stuff, and then they'll be talking about some other dude their into.

            But obviously, I know from the beginning and am getting their numbers to come back to my place afterwards, then I know where thats going. It's like either of the two for me, friend-zone or bone-zone.

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            • KokoroComplex
              12 years ago

              Of course, I'm not saying get a girl that hates you, but is still nice, but I wouldn't get a bitch that climbs on top of girls. It's just balancing things out. Same with girls going for guys. Just treat everyone with respect, even if you want to smack a certain bitch.

              Change is good. You don't need to change who you are- don't change for anyone- but kind of getting out there instead of doing the same generic routine. But then I'm not saying you have to quit going to parties- people just like hanging out at different places.

              Off topic, but one thing that annoys me is when sex-crazed blind idiots think people "saving" themselves are virgins because we can't get any. We (not me included) have opportunity, we just don't take them :P.

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  • Anime7
    12 years ago

    I've been there before and it does suck. From what I've learned it's best to just ask out women that you like.

    Also, have you tried distancing yourself from those women emotionally? I'm not trying to say act cold just don't open up to a women your interested in. That being said, you should really find some new friends to hang out with.

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  • Energy
    12 years ago

    Man up. I really doubt they're "using" you. Why don't you spend time with nice girls anyway?

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  • Gfrigo
    12 years ago

    Your not escalating these relationships. Make your intentions clear and dont be afraid to lose some of these girls because of it. Be more assertive and tell them what type of relationship you want.

    And if that's not what their interested in then move on. There are thousands of girls you could be out meeting that are better suited for you. Trust me man theres someone out there for everyone.

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