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I'm not a lesbian. I had a boyfriend earliar and i'm attracted to guys only. But i feel uncomfortable when guys touch my hand or arm. I even feel weird if i'm talking with them alone. But i feel very comfortable with my female friends.IIN?
Perhaps you feel nervous around them?
Perhaps you don't know what their intentions are, especially if you're just alone with them.
Try and figure out what you think will happen after they touch you or if you're alone.
Maybe you think they will make advances on you?
You may more comfortable with girls because you don't think they can make advances on you.
Maybe you just trust your female friends more than guys right now. Touching is a trust thing
I don't think that's normal, were you abused previously or something. Being a lesbian is fine but I don't think it's related to this issue.
I don't like hugging other women (maybe because I don't like our breasts smooshing together. it feels weird). and I don't like hugging men who I don't know very well. and I don't like it when ANYONE touches my legs for any reason. we all have different comfort zones with touch. I don't know why I am this way, but that's the way it is. no big deal.
It can be several things. Do you feel that him touching you is invasive? Like a dominating move. Could it be that you somehow feel pressured by this person by the very act of him putting his hands on you
Who knows, you probably dont even know the guy, its hard to tell from the few sentences you gave us
Not everyone is a tactile person.
As for talking to them alone: is this a confidence issue? Are you comfortable in all other areas of your life?
I wish you well.