Is it normal that i feel trapped with her?

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Ok, so I am in this relationship with my only friend of about 5 years, and I feel trapped. the problem is that she is an emotional wreck. everything gets to her, if I don't answer her call for more then 3 hours she starts to get panicked. and that was before we got together. the reason i got with her is because she had a break down from having been betrayed by two of her friends and she started to feel like she would live alone forever. that is when she asked me to be her boyfriend. the thing wrong with me is i dont feel the same as she does, but i hate to see her so upset. so to make things better i said yes. i know this is not right but I'm not good with emotions and dealing with them. i had asked her not to tell people just yet that i wasn't ready for them to know, but she went and told her family. now i don't know what to do and would like some advice. anything would help. thx

tell her the truth 33
dont say anything and keep going like this 1
dont tell her, and end it 4
wait for her to end it 3
other (in the comments) 4
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  • plum6
    11 years ago

    I agree with all the comments above, as much as you are trying to do the right thing and stick by the person you care about there is clearly no foundation for an actual relationship. Therefore, it is best for both of you to put a stop to it.

    Not only are you wasting your own time, you are also keeping her from finding someone that she really belongs to. Granted, she will probably not feel this way now, but if there is somewhat of a sane person trapped inside of that woman then she will eventually realize it too.

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  • Mando
    11 years ago

    Are you afraid how she will react? It is not your problem really. But you can try to be as gentle as possible.

    I think that by staying when you don't want to you can't help but give off signals that will confuse and upset her.

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  • Crazycrazy
    11 years ago

    Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind! End the relationship she can then learn to stand on her own to feet!!

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  • mikafor
    11 years ago

    Tell her the truth, but tell her only what she can handle. Tell her it is hard for you to deal with that level of emotions, and that you aren't so sure anymore that you are completely compatible.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    11 years ago

    thank you for all the advice! I'm going to take the advice and stop this before it goes too far. but i just dont know how to do this, but i will find a way. thank you all again!

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Leave. Tell her you fealt pressured and your not interested in a relatoomsjip at this time. If her parents ask apoligize and ecplian ypu are trying to keep her happy but dont know how.

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  • elowen
    11 years ago

    Take care of your own happiness.

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  • chatter289
    11 years ago

    You sound like a really nice guy but, you're not her guardian Hun. You have a life yourself to live and yu need to live it. What you have done so far is more than great and amazing but, this girl to me sounds like a child, she is a very dependent person who can and from the looks of it will never be independent.

    Tell her that you think she is great and that you love her as a FRIEND only and that you both deserve people who will fully love you for who you are and you two are not it. Am if she starts crying and bla bla, shit happens, tell her you still care for her but don't want to be with her. Even if she is crying let her have her say and you have urs and then leave. There is nothing more to it. You have our own life to live, she had chosen to be like a cry baby and dependent. I know it harsh but, if you don't do anything, no one will! So, move on hun. Good luck x

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  • jitterbug66
    11 years ago

    I remember there was a Drake and Josh episode, where Drake wants to break up with a really annoying girl, but she really likes him. So Josh tells him to be disgusting so the girl would break up with him! He does break up with her, but only because she finds someone else.
    So that's your solution right there!

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  • zorpoxtheconqueror
    11 years ago

    Go on a date with her to a fancy restaurant. say your going to the bath room and leave then. Get the waiter to leave her a message as she leaves.

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