Is it normal that i feel this way after telling him?

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A while ago I started dating this guy, and one of the main problems of our relationship was that I couldn't have sex with him. I'm not sure if it was that I didn't trust him or wasn't comfortable enough with him or what, but it ended up being one of the reasons we broke up. He was also very rude about it.

I started dating a new guy who I trust a lot more and feel more comfortable around, and I was recently able to have sex with him. Because I still felt like my ex thought of me as a lame girl who couldn't have sex, I texted him that I wanted him to know that I had sex and that I'm normal. He got really mad, called me a validation whore and said he lost all respect for me.

He was a jerk to me and made me feel stupid because I couldn't have sex with him, and I just wanted to show him that I actually can have sex. But he got so mad and now I feel horrible for telling him. IIN?

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    To him it seemed that you were rubbing it in that you wouldn't have sex with him, but you would with someone else. Telling him that you had sex was very rude because it implied that he wasn't good enough for you.

    I have awful social skills and even I understand that.

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  • Paradiddle
    10 years ago

    Yup, definitely what bugs said. Even if he was a jerk, straight telling an ex that you had sex with someone else? Even if he doesn't deserve anything good, ANYONE wouldn't like their ex to disregard their feelings like that, its a real slap to the face. I wouldn't worry about it too much since he was a jerk but that would be the last thing I'd want to hear from an ex.

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  • ccjigsaw
    10 years ago

    Can't blame you for doing it to be honest. You wouldn't be the first person to smear shit in your ex's face.. he kinda had it coming though if he was pressuring you and making you feel bad for not doing it with him. I think the feeling your supposed to have after sending a revenge signal to a mean ex is 'satisfied.' Not 'horrible' he kind 1up'd you there.

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  • (s)aint
    10 years ago

    Since he was rude about it, he kinda deserved you rubbing it into his face too.

    Don't be surprised that he got mad since it's basically what Bug's said.

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  • Sumi
    10 years ago

    "One of the main problems of our relationship was that I couldn't have sex with him." - Why

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