Is it normal that i feel this way about my cousin?

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So my cousin recently got put into one of those rehab homes for minors who basically fucked up. Me and him have never had the strongest relationship, basically I hated him (ok this seems super mean)because my mom gave him a lot of attention when we were little because his mom was basically a trashbag who gave him up to his dad (moms brother) who is to this day still a lazy bum. He just thought his son that stealing, getting high & partying was the way to go. Now that he went into that rehab place I see him way better. He got built because before he used to be really skinny due to the fact that him and his dad went homeless for a while. I see he got his head out of that whole druggie life. He's optimistic; I just see him way better! &I'm happy for him but I just don't like how close he's been trying to get to me. He calls me every day & it annoys me for some reason. He gets mad because I dont answer & it's like I have a life out here! I go to school, I have a boyfriend, I have friends, I do things out here! I hate to say it like this but HE'S LOCKED UP NOT ME!!! fifty percent of the time I feel like I'm a total bitch & the other fifty percent I'm like "dude im driving, stop fucking calling every 5 minutes" & its not just that. To me he is just so damn CHILDISH im 18 and he's 16 but it feels like we are a decade apart he jsut talks about nonsence, he's just loud & abnoxious. I dont know wtf? is there some thing wrong with me or is there something wrong with him?

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  • iEatZombies_
    11 years ago

    You need to be straightforward with him. It sounds like you want to be there for him, so let him know that, but also let him know there's a time and place for everything. He needs you, you know this. Trust me though, you'll be saving his life if you stick around for him, and he won't always need this kind of attention from you. He's very scared right now- he's got a clear head and so he's confronting all of the horrible things his family has done. Just assure him you won't neglect him like everyone else, even if you two don't talk as often.

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  • kelili
    11 years ago

    There's something wrong with both of you I suppose.

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  • Devyn
    11 years ago

    On the one hand he's had a bad life and needs help. It probably really helps him to talk to you so you should keep that up.

    On the other hand, of course you can't talk to him all the time. You have a life to live and you need to make him understand that, preferably without being harsh. Just be honest about it.

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  • yesnomaybeso
    11 years ago

    I'd say it's normal but I know loads of people are gonna say it's your family and you should be nicer to them... plus he's having a bad time and you might be the only person he can talk to! But I really think this doesn't mean you have to stop having your life just because of your cousin :/

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  • highrider
    11 years ago

    Trying calling him every five minutes and eventually hell get annoyed. What i mean istalk to him, then literally call him back five minutes later and eventuallyhel get annoyed

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  • Cheese123
    10 years ago

    I don't know. I have had similiar problems with a friend of mine. He calls me all the time and it really bores me because he can't hold a conversation and he rambles a lot. I think you should keep in touch with him and remember these two things I think I might know about you and him:

    1. He's locked up and probably doesn't have friends. It's been a hard life for him. It sounds like you're the only friend he's got.

    2. You are not a bad person for wanting a break from him.

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  • sissycakes
    11 years ago

    he has been through a lot more than you have, and you should quit being a bitch to him.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    just tell his dumb ass to stop calling

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  • plum6
    11 years ago

    I could not help reading this story with a detroit dialect, it just seemed right.

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    • plum6
      11 years ago

      white trash ghetto problems.. get it?

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      • Anonymous Post Author
        11 years ago

        no, youre gay! aha we arn't white nor from detroit ahah but great imagination there :P

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  • TheMysticalTaco
    11 years ago

    Clearly theres something wrong with him if hes in REHAB but mabey your taking it the wrong way i mean your family hes had a bit of a messed life, youve done better, he is in need of help so whats a few messages and a call now and then going to do to affect your life.

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  • thanksforthefreecar
    11 years ago

    Good for him :D

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