Is it normal that i feel this way?

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I tried dating a certain girl a couple of years ago, but it didn't work out because I didn't make any moves on her. I was so afraid of ruining things with her, so we broke up. (She wasn't rude about it, sort of a mutual decision.)

Well, now, I still love her. A lot. Everytime I see her or am around her, I get this feeling of serenity. I always picture us together, but instead of a sex-fueled relationship (like every other girl,) I always picture her and I under the stars and cuddling.

I'm not trying to be cheesy, I just don't want to take advantage of her. Ever.

I don't know if this is normal, but I definitely don't know what I should do.

Please read the below answers, and vote.

If your thoughts aren't in the answers, or you have anything you want to say, please comment.

Thank you all in advance...

Do nothing 3
Tell her how I feel but nothing else 9
Ask her out 12
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  • MR.mr
    7 years ago

    MOVE ON!!!

    Take it from someone whose been there move on, it will only bring you heart ache

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  • Cocomilktitties
    7 years ago

    You need to be honest with yourself. Did it not work because you didn't make a move? Or did it not work because for whatever reason, she wasn't really that into you or she lost interest?

    If she was really into you, she wouldn't have let it fizzle out just because you didn't want to have sex or something. If a girl is really wanting sex or to take things to the next level, she will usually at least prompt you to make a move.

    I'm not saying that you not taking initiative has nothing to do with it. It could be that she wanted someone with a more aggressive personality, but either way, if a girl is really into you, she won't let you go that easily.

    If you really feel that strongly about her though, go ahead and tell her how you feel. but if you do that, don't be a whiny little boy crying at her feet. That will turn her off. You don't need to be a dick, but being to the point and honest is probably your best bet. Be a gentleman of course, just don't kiss her ass (yet).

    That being said, if it doesn't work out, then just remember this. It's not worth loving someone who really doesn't care much about you. If someone doesn't like you for whatever reason or doesn't like the way you did something, or you feel like you're always walking on eggshells with them just trying and hoping to keep them liking you, then it's not right. The girl might be pretty, smart, funny, nice even... but if she doesn't have much interest in you, then it's not worth it.

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    • fluffy1uv
      7 years ago

      These seem to be based off of personal experience as opposed to logical conclusions through putting yourself in the others shoes. Just a thought

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      • Cocomilktitties
        7 years ago

        That's because it is. Women aren't always the same, but these types of situation always tend to be similar.

        Do your thing. But always be willing to be honest with yourself. Sometimes, it's hard, especially with girls, to try and see the reality because you feel so strongly about someone.

        I don't know what type of guy you really are and I don't know your full situation, so I'm not trying to discourage you. If you feel like something is truly there, then do your thing and go for it. Women are people.

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        • fluffy1uv
          7 years ago

          I'm not op but that is good advice

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  • johnpartridge
    7 years ago

    Sounds like you were too much of a pussy for her. I mean that constructively. Most girls want a guy who has the balls to make a move.

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    • fluffy1uv
      7 years ago

      John Partridge taking out the knowledge cartridge again *multiple fire emojis*

      Really though this guy gets it. It is very very unattractive when your man doesn't make the first move. Think about how she might feel: "am i not hot enough for him to want me?" "Does he think I dont find him attractive" or worst of all "is he going to be this passive (a pussy^) for our whole relationship?"

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  • Jerrytaro
    7 years ago

    Talk to her about it. I'm sure she'll understand. Personally, I'm in a relationship very similar to what you described and it's great. Hope that helps a little.

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  • Emarmake
    7 years ago

    One; you are adorable and I hope my future daughter ends up with a guy like you.

    Two; this is pretty simple; tell her how you feel. If she doesn't feel the same way, than move on (easier said than done I know, but it is possible). If she does feel the same way than great, start dating again. If things don't work out than that sucks but at least now you know and won't be plagued by the idea of "what if". If things do work out than good for you.
    Honestly, taking this chance is better than doing nothing and spending the rest of your life wonder what could have been.

    I hope everything works out for you hun'. Best of luck.

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  • Cuntsiclestick
    7 years ago

    You're better off moving on and finding someone else.

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  • bucketfullofassholes
    7 years ago

    She needs real men, with big voluminous veiny horse- sized cocks.

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