Is it normal that i feel stupid for telling my mother?

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I'm 19 and I came out to my mom as being bisexual. It wasn't a horrible reaction, but it also wasn't the reaction I was hoping for. When I brought it up she just tried to make it into a joke. Basically she is not ok with it. I tried to understand why, but she claimed she didn't really know herself. I know she still loves me, but she said shed rather I wasn't bisexual because it would be easier. I just wished she said she didn't care and that it doesn't matter. I currently don't have a girlfriend, and I may not have one who knows. Plus her reaction makes me feel like the whole thing was pointless. I regret it and wish I never said anything. I feel stupid and embarassed now. *p.s. I have had girlfriends before but she didn't know about them.*

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  • q25t
    11 years ago

    She reacted with a joke, not anger or anything. I think that probably means you've got a chance with her. <BR><BR>I wouldn't take it too personally when she says it would be easier if you weren't bisexual because it's unfortunately true. I mean everyone in the world understands and accepts straight people and gays are getting there slowly. Bisexuals on the other hand, I don't believe people know how to deal with. <BR><BR>Only advice I can give is just to be patient with her and hopefully she'll come around.

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  • xSelbstmordx
    11 years ago

    Don't worry, Miss, I know how you feel. I came out to my mom about having a mental disorder that I've been severely struggling with today, and she did the same thing your mother did. She made a joke out of it, and even told me I was lying! My God!
    Anyways, I think it's just something parents do. I think your mom is worried about how you'll make out in today's society, for they do not accepy gays/lesbians/bisexuals like they should. Maybe she is afraid that you'll get picked on or made fun of. And, trust me, I know your mom upset you, and even hurt you, when she tried to make a joke out of it, but you need to keep one thing in mind: That this is YOUR life. You choose how you live. You know what makes you happy more than your mom, or anyone else, does. If you're happier dating a girl than a guy, so be it. Don't worry about your mom. :)
    Hope this helped. I'm on your side!
    -Lizzie

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      Thanks Lizzie, thats really sweet :D Yeah I am not well either and my mom doesn't get it so I can relate. I'm sorry to hear that I know it's tough. Perhaps your mom doesn't want to believe that you are ill. My mom refused to believe it for a long time and thought it would go away by pretending it wasn't there. Maybe get an official diagnosis if you haven't already? She will have to accept it then. It is not your fault. :)

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      • xSelbstmordx
        11 years ago

        Hi there!
        Aww, you're welcome! I'm so glad I could help. ^^ And you've helped me out, too! I appreciate your help. =)

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    Sorry to hear that.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    well you shouldn't have said anything
    all i can say sens it sounds that your both
    upset

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