Is it normal that i feel stuck and unhappy

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I am 39, 40 in March. I have never enjoyed the job I do and I can't afford to go back to college or uni to retrain as anything else.Can't even afford night school. I am constantly trying to find ways out of my situation but every time I hit a brick wall. I just want to do something that I love and enjoy and something that gives me enough money to live and have at least one holiday a year. But it seems all my options are blocked,

And every plan I come up with just seems to be going nowhere.

I have considered going for my dream to be a writer but there is only a small chance that that will get me any money.

I have considered journalism, but it is really difficult to break into and I have no experience or a relevant degree.

Out of desperation I have tried making a living as a tarot reader ,and even though I am good at the tarot I can't ever see it becoming a long term career !

I know lots of people who are just happy to do any old job like shop work, cleaning etc but I have always wanted to do something special, something that makes me feel good.
Maybe I am just abnormal ?

I just want to get my life sorted but feel constantly frustrated and unhappy. It is like there is something I want to do but don't know what it is. I just wish there was something I could learn through books and DVD's and take up as a new career.

Until something breaks I just feel stuck in a job I have never enjoyed and struggling to pay the rent and bills every month.

Has anybody been in my position or has anybody got any good ideas or should I just accept that I have my low paying job that is not perfect. should I just give up and make the most of it ? Or should I keep trying to find a new way forward ?

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  • hartnell
    13 years ago

    Thanks for all your replies :)

    Its like every day I wake up with a different plan and idea. Today I am thinking that I should really go for my writing ( 110 %)and start to believe in myself as a writer at the same time as earning what money I can from my job.I have always wanted to write and it is the only thing that makes me feel alive. If I dare to dream, who knows. The way I see it is that if I get published, great. But if it never happens I will hopefully have a body of work to pass on to my family in many years to come. That is special, don't you think ?

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  • Seustewart
    12 years ago

    I feel the same so It's normal for me. Life does kinda suck for the most part.

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  • aubrie77
    13 years ago

    Some of he best writing advice I ever received told me to write what I know. Take your situation and write about pieces of your life. If you do this during the hours you aren't working something will begin to formulate! But as with everything, it takes patience and determination.

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  • phoenix_paradox
    13 years ago

    Very likely situation here... Damn at least you have a job... I'm broke!! :'(

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  • kricket
    13 years ago

    Stop saying "but" so much and maybe you"ll go further?

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  • xino00
    13 years ago

    trying to live your dream is a difficult thing.

    And I would suggest you:

    do the same job you are doing, get a part time course about writing/journalism.
    Trust me, some people work part time and go college full time and end up living a better life because of how hard they worked back then.

    Trust me you need to take the steps to achieve your dream.
    I also advice you to do volunteer work such as being a journalist on websites. If you keep doing tasks based on writing, authour, editor or journalist. Your portfolio will in increase so does your experience.

    Currently, i'm in a bad position myself!

    I just took on a course for Game Designer because I want to be making games in the future. I recently got laid off my job and been looking for another. I'm paying for gym and can't even attend for something I'm paying for.

    I will keep trying until i achieve my dream/goal.

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  • nanimeow
    13 years ago

    I just look at a job as a way to pay for what you want to do. I like my job and the people I work with but they pay me in kitty litter for what I do.
    First off, the economy sucks so just be thankful you have a job. There are many people who are off worse. Second off, I agree with the post above. When I can't afford to do something I volunteer my labor/time for the chance to do it. I wanted to try horseback riding but didn't have $250 lying around so I would help out. Finally, why can't you write AND work at the same time?

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  • dappled
    13 years ago

    Wow, for once I have nothing to say. You echo my position. I have a very maths/science brain and, because of the way of the world, I ended up working with computers. I do enjoy my job and I get paid well, but I'd be much happier working with animals. The easiest way to do that is to help the animals abused by absolute cretins (so, animal rescue, PDSA, RSPCA, Blue Cross), but to do that I'd need to be able to drive. And I think driving is equally destructive (although people happily go along with the hype). I'm stuck, just the same as you are.

    To advise you, I'd really need to advise myself. My heart is saying that you only have one life and you need to do what makes you happy. But my head is suggesting sanity. The world is how it is, not how would be ideal for you. And, in short, I don't know the answer.

    All I can say is good luck.

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