Is it normal that i feel so lonely?

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I am a 19 year old male university student in the UK.

I work hard, I never go out drinking, I only talk to people outside of lectures and seminars for course related reasons, I don't have a girlfriend (never have) and I spend almost every night on my own.

Most of the time, it doesn't bother me. I can occupy myself. I have plenty of uni work to do, I like watching TV but the one thing I can't do is talk to myself about the bad days I have. I would love to come home at the end of the day and have somebody to talk to.

I have never tried to get a girlfriend, I think I came close a few years ago. I think the reason is because I have three moles on my face. They don't bother me that much, if at all. But they do when I think they might be putting people off. It's easy to say that people shouldn't avoid you because of your looks but I wouldn't take issue with it. Most people have an almost innate belief in beauty and they look for it in a partner. I can see why people don't look at me.

I've never consulted on having them removed but sometimes I fell like its the only way I'll be taken seriously.

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  • 59Rebel
    7 years ago

    Could always try making online friends, sometimes it's easier than talking face to face

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  • Smokey1D
    7 years ago

    I doubt people notice your moles. Many people have them.
    If they worry you - it's quite straightforward to have them taken off by a plastic surgeon.
    But I wouldn't if I were you. Focus on your good bits!

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  • Freedom_
    7 years ago

    I went to grade school with this kid who had moles on his face and was quite round with fly away hair. He looked like this from elementary school on into high school. But one day I seen him after graduation and he had completely transformed into what appeared to be a Hellenistic sculpture of some Greek god. His hair was tamed into golden ribbons. He lost weight, gained muscle. And his moles were no longer moles; they were beauty marks. I was astounded.

    The power to change is within you. First, find yourself. Then find a friend. The rest will fall into place.

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  • i_was_fricasseed
    7 years ago

    Sounds like you only have yourself to blame and the only onexception who can fix it is you.

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  • Fvcknloner
    7 years ago

    Yea as already mentioned - maybe you should try making online friends or even go out more, you don't necessarily have to drink or go out to parties. There are lots of other fun activities. As for finding a girlfriend, don't worry about it too much. If someone is only looking to date someone based on looks, it's not even worth it because it probably won't last long.
    Good luck

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