Is it normal that i feel so attached to my boyfriend?

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I've been with my boyfriend for 8 months (he's 16 and I'm 17) and the first 6 months everything was great but now its gotten so that whenever he randomly stops texting me or is even the slightest bit rude or says something condescending (which he's also started to do a lot) I get really upset and generally end up crying. I hate feeling like this and I feel like I'm too dependent on him to make me happy and I feel like poop when he's not being 100% nice to me and I want to be more independent. He says he misses me a lot and I miss him to and we both love each other. I don't think I'm clingy he usually calls me first and if I text him and he doesn't respond then I leave it alone.

But how do I become more independent from someone I care so much about? Any advice on this?

I don't feel as confident in myself as I did before I got into a relationship with him I don't want to care about his opinion as much as I do, but I'm also afraid to lose him because I've been dependent on him for so long I don't know what would happen to me if I was no longer with him.

I also feel like I've "peaked" which really isn't a good feeling seeing as I'm only 17 - I feel like he's the best I'm ever going to get which is flattering for him, but I worry about him leaving me for someone prettier/better than me and then I'll never find anyone as good or better than he is.

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  • JenAus1217
    12 years ago

    I think it's normal but it starts to get dangerous when you get too dependent on your boyfriend.

    I understand how you'd feel upset/depressed/empty when someone whom you care so much treats you badly and your fear of losing your boyfriend. I felt the same once. But I think you shouldn't give your key of happiness to your boyfriend - you shouldn't let your boyfriend determine your level of happiness. It's not that you don't care about/love him anymore. It's just that you should know better than to let him have too much influence on you.

    To be more independent, I think you should learn to love yourself more and respect your individuality first. Of course your boyfriend's opinion is very important to you, but your own opinion is of utmost importance too. It's good that you care about/try to understand your boyfriend's opinion, but you shouldn't let his outweigh yours. Loving yourself and respecting your own voice is essential to a more healthy relationship :)

    Apart from that, you may want to develop a new hobby/interest, or hang out with/always keep in touch with your friends, or just do/focus on something you enjoy. In doing these things, you can distract yourself from your boyfriend and keep youself busy in order to prevent yourself from overreacting to what your boyfriend does. It's important for you to enjoy your life to become more independent.

    And please don't worry too much about him leaving you. If he leaves you for someone better/prettier, then you'd know that he doesn't really love you and he's not as good as you believe him to be. If he truly loves you, he'd stay. If it's not something that you can control, then you should try to relax and be more confident. Worrying doesn't help! :)

    As for if you can ever find anyone as good as/better than your current boyfriend, I believe when you have other partners in the future, you would reckon your future partners the best too. After all it's just the way you perceive them. And actually no comparison is ever needed as long as you love them :)

    Take care!

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  • cunt_eater
    7 years ago

    Have you seen his naked boner cock and nut sack yet ?
    Have you sat on his face and let him tongue fuck your bald cunt and deep rim your poop chute until you cum , piss , fart , shit on his face , in his mouth , on his chest , on his belly and smear it all over his belly with your ass cheeks and then he will clean your ass cheeks , ass crack , asshole up with his tongue ?

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  • hottmess
    12 years ago

    Let me guess... you lost your virginity to him at 6 months and then you became super attached and what not? stop having sex with him... because you arent ready. this might help a little, but your going to be emotionally attached to him for a very long time if you did lose your virginity to him. if he loves you, he will understand. and spend more time with your friends and hobbies, thats really the best advice anyone can give to you as you can see by these comments! (:

    p.s. if my bf didnt text me back, i would be super pissed even though weve been dating for a year and i am not dependent on him alone

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    Get busy with other friends / interests.

    I hate to tell you this but ... you are both children and I've no doubt that you will split and go out with another lot of people before you finally settle down. You don't have an adult brain until you're 25yo and he is two years behind you in maturity too - so don't be basing your whole life on this relationship!!!

    Try to imagine being in your 40s with this man.
    As you grow up, you two will either grow apart or side by side but only time will tell.

    Make sure you both get your education and don't live in fantasy land that you only need love and not money!

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