Is it normal that i feel so alone when it comes to ideals in society?

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I know today a lot more things are acceptable, but I've been told that I'm one of the most close minded people they know just for my beliefs in culture nowadays.
I'm still young, but I've only ever sipped light alcohol once and I hated it. I hate when people smoke around me, and I hate when people get high around me. I also hate when people have sex with people they aren't even interested in romantically.

With getting drunk and getting high, I feel like they must feel like I'm not good enough or entertaining enough for them sober, so they have to be high. I get somewhat offended.
I accept people who do it, but people who have sex with others for no reason, and people who get pissed, high, or smoke 'just to fit in' or for no valid reason( a valid reason, for me, would be something like emotional problems that need an outlet) so when people get too pissed or high just cause they're at a party, it irritates me.

I've asked my long term boyfriend to stop getting too pissed, I'm fine with him getting drunk, but I don't think I can handle him getting wasted with me around or with people I don't trust around him and he feels like I'm too controlling. Even when I tell him about something that irritates me to do with alcohol, smokes, weed or sex, he gets frustrated at me for not accepting society.

Is it normal to feel so alone in a sense of having ideals so different to everyone else's that you can't relate to anyone?

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  • LordHawHaw
    11 years ago

    I have a problem too with society and the downfall of morals, it feels like we're getting closer again to the animals. Somekind of backwards evolution back to the cavemen.

    But there are plenty of non-conformistic people out there who don't just follow the others like some kind of braindead zombie. So the excuse 'of not accepting society' is bullshit. My advice is to find a better boyfriend who is not gonna end up an alcoholic who beats his kids and can't find a job.

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    • [Old Memory]
      11 years ago

      You guys sound pretentious as hell. Its fine that you don't like recreational drugs and how they affect your behavior and other people's behavior, but don't judge people for it.

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  • opal-leaves
    11 years ago

    This is completely normal!!! I used to drink, party, get high, etc. But I have recently engaged in a relationship in which my bf doesn't like to partake in those things & since I love him with all my heart, I took those negative things out of my life for him (& also for myself) b/c I love him & I would want to make him feel comfortable at all times. If you boyfriend doesn't feel the same way as I do then I don't think it's worth for you to stay with him. You seem like a mature person & he obviously isn't.

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  • baronroderick
    11 years ago

    I understand your feelings, I used to feel exactly like you on high school. But on college I realized that my problem wasn't with alcohol, weed, sex, I had a problem with the mediocre people which surrounded me in high school. When people are smart and interesting and have good taste, it's simply delightful to be with them, talk and drink (I have a thing for brandy), smoke, fondle your partner. Things are not so rigidly divided, I experienced some very romantic and delicate "one-night stands". Stop being so dualistic and moralist! Relax

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago

    You have a conservative moral set. A lot of people feel the way you do, they just don't make a show of it the way the other side of the spectrum makes a show of their drunkenness or their lifestyle.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    *looks around, walks out.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    You shouldn't be so judgmental. Not everybody drinks and does drugs, and some people can moderate it. Get off your high horse, you're not alone. Just find some new friends.

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    • KillerZombieSheep
      11 years ago

      I don't see myself higher than anyone. And I'm not changing my friends, I love them, but seeing how they turn into something that isn't themselves is what has tuned me off all that shit. I'm in that group of mates where everyone listens to heavy music and hang out at gigs all the time, so I'm surrounded by it a shit ton, but it's the drugs, not the people. People using it recreationally is totally cool with me, I just hate when they chose to do it around me. Most of my friends drink, smoke or use drugs, so I don't judge the person, I just get singled out a lot for disliking them.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    You are on a different wave length. You must find a path away from the irritations that surround you.

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