Is it normal that i feel sexual towards my friend?

I am currently in my first year of college. I am 19 and still a virgin. There is this girl in my philosophy class i have become good friends with and i feel strong sexual feelings towards her. we have never done anything physical with each other. I was wondering is it normal to just think sexual thoughts about her all the time? I would ask her out but its been 2 months since i started and i fear that im friendzoned

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  • Anime7

    Yeah it is totally normal and pretty common. I've felt that way before as well. If you want just ask her out. See what happens. If she's not interested then maybe you two could try to be friends? I mean like at least you know if she's interested or not. But on the off chance that she's not there's no need to end the friendship. Appreciate what you have, but don't feel shame if you want something more and didn't get it.

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  • swp6

    She is probably wondering why you haven't asked her out yet, if you wait to long someone else will be dating her and then you'll be on the outside looking in. Go for it!!

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  • tripw7

    Completely normal. It's natural to think in sexual terms. After all, you are a guy! You don't sound like a guy that would take advantage of anyone for that matter. You just need to continue with your inner thoughts and ask her out. Whatever happens, probably non-sexual will maybe lead to a lasting friendship. I still have gal friends that I really don't communicate with because I am married now, but if I have an event, I'll let them know. Like the birth of our first child.

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  • Erik963

    Okay here are exact steps what you should do

    1. Tell her you wanna fuck.

    2 Profit.

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  • wm72

    Think careful before dating someone in your class. The dating part is great but usually the breakup part lead to hours and hours of uncomfortable lectures. Many of my friends even changed their courses just to not see the ex in the class.

    Another thing....I hope you think of her in other ways as well and not just a sexual way.

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    • Oolongs94

      I think of her in more ways then sexual. I think she's a great friend she's incredibly smart she is beautiful and a great person. I just said sexual because my feelings for her are intense enough to where i consider them sexual.

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  • The only way to exit the friend zone is to take a chance and ask the girl out. Otherwise how the hell is she ever going to figure out that you want to lay her down by the fire?

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  • Oolongs94

    Hey guy's thought i'd give an update i asked her out coming to find out she is a lesbian lol

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  • xiaospirit

    you my friend we are feeling the same mutual way i started liking this girl i been trying to cheer up ever since she broke up on october 13 , then just before halloween that week on monday she starts to ignore me ,even when we meet she just avoids me like i am nobody . i do feel sexual towards her and i am planning to confess to her in front of everyone after we both finished our final exam next friday, i know is whack but i do not want to hide my emotions towards her . you should do that too , good luck on you

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  • peterr

    Suck her off...start by saying, I know a girl who asked her friend if she could eat her out and you know what the friend said..make something up...she said yes so the ask her what she would say...i would eat you and her out myself if you lived closer!!!

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    • xiaospirit

      that is too direct because most girls do not like it when guys mention sex to them , trust me i had a friend whose like that and it made girls hate her for always talking about porn

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  • Thatguy777

    She better not mean a lot to you, because if you ask her out and she doesn't feel the same way, things will NEVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER be the same between you again. I told the first girl I ever loved that I liked her more than a friend, and it RUINED our relationship. Everything went to hell, and she doesn't want anything to do with me now. Just be fuck buddies with her.

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  • tripw7

    Let us know what happens. Interest in what your outcome was and what she expected. K?

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  • thegypsysailor

    What the hell is "friendzoned"?
    Anyway, ask the girl out; what have you got to lose? She may even be waiting for you to do so.
    But you won't know if you don't ask, will you? I know it's hard and the fear of rejection is awesome, but really dude, what's she gonna do, shoot you dead on the spot? Run out of the room screaming, "rape, rape..."? Naw, she'll probably say yes.

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    • Sog

      See things are complicated for kids these days. Now it's permissible for girls to have "friends" which they have a quasi-romantic relationships with without commitment who they can keep in their pocket for support while they look for another guy. They have no intention of anything long term with their "friend", but she can call on him to fill the emotional gaps as needed, usually between relationships.

      For short, we call those guys who end up stuck in those kinds of relationships, "friendzoned".

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      • thegypsysailor

        Wow, too much. Thanks.

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  • White__October

    That's very normal. If you're good friends and trust each other you can just ask her how she feels about that. Good chance you can become friends with benefits or even partners.

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