Is it normal that i feel sad about his behavior?

We are not lovers, but he liked me and i liked him. It happened because my parents forbid me for having a relationship as they think i am not ready yet. So, it's about his tendency of replying me so late. He used to reply me fast and if he was about to reply me late, he'll let me know. But starting that day, after we come into conclusion that we shouldn't force things and stop acting like we're lovers, he began to reply me once a day or later. But, whenever just the two of us met, he still act in a romantic way. I know we still liked each other that time, but it's just that his cold way of replying tortures me while he still act like we were lovers when ever we met. He did mention that it's been his habit of replying coldly and sometimes ignores my messages (he said he did it to all of his friends, even his mom and the fact that he was living in a dorm where phones were forbidden for 3 years made his tendency of putting less attention to phone) but he used to not ignore mine like he did nowadays.. :(
so, is it normal that i feel sad about his behavior eventhough he said he still like me with the fact we choose to be friends?

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58% Normal
Based on 12 votes (7 yes)
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  • Tealights

    "we come into conclusion that we shouldn't force things and stop acting like we're lovers."

    You answered your own question. Lovers get immediate responses, everyone else gets the normal response time. You are slowly going to the 'everyone else,' category, and he'll eventually find someone he can date.

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    • AmazingGrace8

      But he said he loved me.. Dont you feel it is a contrary to how he treated me? :(

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  • (s)aint

    Did you both decided to be friends or was that ust you? A friend doesn´t require as much attention as a lover.
    And what did your parents had to do with it all?

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    • AmazingGrace8

      my parents forbid me for having relationship as im studying abroad, they're afraid of the unwanted.
      At first, we both agree that it is the most logical thing to do, we have different religion which his family won't like it, and i won't change mine, plus the fact that i can't have a romantic relationship with him right now (my parents said to have relationship when im working already which is 3 years from now) further emphasize that we kinda hard being together. But, after making that decision, he seemed not to act accordingly by means he still treat me like lovers while we agreed we should just be friends and one day he said he is not ready to let me go just yet. It tortures me as i can't act romanticly and also i got pressure from my sister as she dislikes him. So, in the end i kinda force the decision. But, he already act coldly in the chat and all, i was confused and thought he was not serious with me.

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      • (s)aint

        1) Fuck your family.
        2) Fuck your religion if it keeps you from dating someone you want.

        People that´s so trapped in traditions and religions have no place in a modern society.

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        • AmazingGrace8

          I just don't have the heart to ignore things like that. It may seem traditional but it holds crucial values for me

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          • (s)aint

            When it´s limiting your life ...?

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            • AmazingGrace8

              Yeah.. Sadly those things shaped me. And i feel like betraying them if i choose to change for him and i just cant..

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  • RoseIsabella

    He sounds pretty flaky. Forget about his weird ass.

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    • AmazingGrace8

      Yup, that's the plan now. Moreover, we can't be friends anymore. He is ignoring my messages now :')

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