Is it normal that i feel nothing when people die

I know it is a sad occurrence when someone dies. When my family members die, I feel a little sadness but very little. I must live on. After a school shooting or a bombing, my family all becomes a clump of sadness. Sandy Hook didn't directly affect us but when my dad heard, he started crying. I felt nothing. Absolutely nothing. I thought about it and I realized that I was supposed to feel sad. But I didn't. I just don't care.

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  • YoungLunatic

    I haven't cried when my grandma and grandpa died.Haven't cried 1 tear for an entire year after their deaths,but now..I start to feel disappointed by myself,well,I must not negate to mention the plot:my house is now haunted by my grandma/grandpa or both of them and when they were alive I hated them and now..they are proving that they hate me and sometimes,they just scare the shit out of me,especially when I get high.
    At least I don't get bored when I'm home alone...

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  • Terence_the_viking

    I think one day it will catch up to you and really hit you and then you will be a fountain of tears.

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  • Holzman67

    Maybe you don't grasp how precious, fragile and ultimately beautiful life is. And how the innocent do not deserve to die.

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    • DolphinAngel

      I just don't give a fuck!

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      • Devyn

        Perhaps you just don't give a f*** yet. Certainly when I was younger I didn't understand the value of life and didn't appreciate it.

        It is a well documented fact that children who are diagnosed with terminal illness rarely seem to care as much as adults. When we are young we cannot comprehend the enormity and importance of death.

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        • DolphinAngel

          As I said, I couldn't care less...

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  • Cuntsiclestick

    Normal. I can't feel sad for families deaths or the deaths of others either. I know what a mass murderer does is wrong. I also know it's wrong not to feel sad, but I just can't seem to feel sad. Yet for some reason I'm still sad over the loss of my dog.

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  • _whydoesthishappen_

    I only feel sad if I knew them personally, and they shouldn't have died. All the shootingg and everything are awful, but I never met the kids, couldn't do anything to stop it, and since we don't know what happens after we die, I just feel neutral. If someone/ animal I have known for a really long time, dies for no good reason, then I feel sad. My dog got hit by a car, after chasing a squirrel through the woods for about a half mile, and the driver just drove off, as my family's awesome dog was yelping, and dying. That made me really sad, but I learned from the lesson and made sure with my new dog I have a command that works at any distance she can hear me from, to make sure she comes back.

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  • Jfdp

    Its Normal,
    i read the other day that in the country where i live theres like 15 murders a day

    Do we cry for them?

    Not necessarily, The world is full of this kind of thing, just check out the running headlines the next time you watch the news, chances are ther'l be a story about a suicide/car bombing in Iraq/Syria/Nigeria/Libya/Palestine/Afghanistan/Pakistan

    chances are the death toll will be something like 12 and the injury toll something like 19,
    and this type of thing happens practically every day in many parts of the world
    Its sad, but its normal not to feel anything, after all you didnt know any of these people too intimately, grief is a very personal thing, not caring Is a defense mechanism, so yah, 100% normal

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  • You don't relate.

    One day you will.

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  • grumbo

    People are dieing all the time. Cut up. Butchered. Hacked to pieces. Shot. Beaten. Nobody really gives two 44s. If they did you would see them do something about it.

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  • I think it is normal not to react to events that do not effect you such as murders that are somewhere else.
    I think its bad that these things happen, but when I hear about it I can still go about my day as if I didn't.
    I do feel upset when someone close to me dies though.

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  • DamnSonn

    They showed my friends tombstone with his family crying in front of it. I broke down in tears!!

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  • DamnSonn

    It's true that many times you won't feel anything. I didn't cry during 9-11, sandy hook, etc.. But when I feel some kind of connection to what happen, that's when I feel emotional. I watched a news special about my city,Chicago, and all the violence. I cried like a baby!!!!!!!

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  • braintrip

    yeah for some weird reason i didnt cry about sandy hook or the shooting in the movie theater

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  • philosophie

    27000 children die from starvation everyday in the world...THIS is sad. (this is actually a real number)I don't cry when somebody dies either, this is normal. You have to be really attached whit somebody to feel that emptiness that makes you so sad and want to die yourself like a heartbreak.(peine d'amour) Death is not the point...Life is so unjust.

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  • Abend_zersetzen_mich

    If you don't feel something, you can't make yourself feel something.

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    • DolphinAngel

      What's your name supposed to mean?

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      • Abend_zersetzen_mich

        "Evening decomposes/degrades/corrodes me" in German.

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  • Eveyana

    I think it's normal to sometimes be apathetic and indifferent to bad things that happen to people we don't know and aren't emotionally invested in. However, when death or misfortune happens to our own, our loved ones, or us, it starts to really hit home.

    That's when you start having more sympathy and empathy for others.

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