Is it normal that i feel lonely in my own house?

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Ok, so this will be kind of long, but it takes a minute to read so i hope you'll stick with me 'till the end :) Today i cried my soul out in the gym. I was there with my boyfriend and he wanted me to tell him what's wrong but i just couldn't cause i never talked to anybody about this so it was kinda hard for me. I moved to a bigger city to go to college and whenever i come back to my town, our house is empty 90% of the time. My mom and dad are always working, mom doesnt even make meals properly, she just makes them in like 10 minutes and goes away to work again cause they own a shop so they feel like they always need to be there. I don't remember the last we all just sat and watched TV, even when she doesn't have to work she is always somewhere else or running around the house, she says she can't sit still. I don't know, i feel so lonely here and makes me want to cry, i have only one friend in my home town but she needs to study just like me so we hang out at night, also my boyfriend, we just go to gym and hang out at night but the rest of the day i'm all alone in my house. I guess i just need to get used to it, maybe thats how growing pains feel like. There's nothing much to to i think and i never told my mom how i feel. What do you guys think? Sorry this was long and kind of all over the place. I appreciate all of your responses

Btw im 21

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  • [Old Memory]
    7 years ago

    lotsa people feel alone in today's world.

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    • younglady987
      7 years ago

      Thats so true and so scary

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      • younglady987
        7 years ago

        I do have friends and stuff but when u come home from college for like a month, i wanna diiiiiie, i feel like im an orphan at someone elses house

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        • [Old Memory]
          7 years ago

          Better than me I have been friendless for 10+ years. Still you should count your blessings at least you have your your health with you. If health is gone then everything is gone.

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          • younglady987
            7 years ago

            Awww how do you deal with it? Do you at least have some people to sometimes go out with? Yes, we all need to be grateful for what we have while working on other things

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            • [Old Memory]
              7 years ago

              Unfortunately there is no one. I just accept that this is my fate.

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  • yesnomaybeso
    7 years ago

    Aww! That sounds bad but completely normal! It happens to me as well, and to everybody really! You create your life elsewhere and then it's difficult to go to the other places because your life isn't there anymore? I think it's completely normal, but it's bugging! But try to remember the good things! At least you do have a friend, and a boyfriend! You could maybe cook yourself. That way you'll be busy, and being busy is the best medicine- and you'll save your mum 10 minutes that she can spend with you instead?

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    • younglady987
      7 years ago

      Thanks so much for the response :)
      Yes, i will try to focus on the good things, there are always good things but sometimes i miss homey vibe, i will always miss it i think. My parents opened a shop when i was 7 and since then they would leave me alone in the house. I remember crying a lot when i was little. Now when im grown up it hits me sometimes. I wanted to know what other people think. :)

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  • Terence_the_viking
    7 years ago

    Yep

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  • TrustMeImLying
    7 years ago

    If you're worried about the length of your post, you can always use paragraphs to try and offset that.

    It's normal for you to feel that way. Some get used to it and some never do. Get yourself a pet, it might alleviate the emptiness in your home a bit.

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  • mysistersshadow
    7 years ago

    Life is what you make of it.

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  • noid
    7 years ago

    Yes it is normal. There will be more such things to come. Welcome to adulthood. Hope you can keep your friend, boyfriend, and good outlook.

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    • younglady987
      7 years ago

      Aww i also think my boyfriend is not for me, but im trying not to overthink and just go with the flow. Thank you for the response, growing up is a mother fucker :)

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  • fluffylions
    7 years ago

    I think it is perfectly normal to feel lonely at home. It is normal, but not okay. Everyone has something called "Love Language", it is how you feel loved by the people around you (including your friends) and how you show your love and appreciation to them. (you can read up on this)

    The fact that you are feeling lonely, and you have tried not to but you still feel lonely, is a sign your heart is sending you that you are not receiving enough love. Butt once you do find out, work it out with your parents so both of you can feel loved and still have time to do their things.

    And no, you are NOT overly emotional or anything else. Everyone needs to feel loved by their family, including my 70 year old Granny.

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  • RoseIsabella
    7 years ago

    Do you have a fear of abandonment?

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    • younglady987
      7 years ago

      Maybe cause im already feeling so distanced from her. We are so different and i feel like shes getting more and more attached to my older sister. My mom likes talking about people and thats tiring to me and i usually cant stand it, but my older sister likes that too so i get why they started being so close(my mom and her used to fight all the time but now when my sister is older and has her family things kind of changed, they are fine now finally)

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  • genericallyanime
    7 years ago

    try making friends on the internet???

    i tried

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  • riffraffy
    7 years ago

    You're being overly emotional and overly entitled.

    Unfulliment, that is, that dread you get for doing nothing all day, is the ultimate source of your anxiety. For a long while, it seems, you've used other people and social interaction to fill this need. With that gone, the dread hits hard.

    Consider all the things you consume, every day. Netflix, videogames, whatever. Then consider all the things you create. It's a harder list to come with, but things like writing, studying, learning a skill and exercising are things that will fulfill you as a person.

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    • younglady987
      7 years ago

      Its not that i do anything all day, im a med student so i guess i study, i do chores around the house, hang out with people, work out regularly.. I dont want any kind of special treatment from my parents but youre right that im overly sensitive, thats so true, thats how i am. What im saying is that i really miss a homey vibe, my mom never sits 10 minutes with me..this morning i got up and she went to do shop right away, she was here with me less than 5mins, ok she has to work but right after that, she will be leaving to go to this other city and wont me here all day.

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    • younglady987
      7 years ago

      Its not that i dont do anything. Im focusing on my studies, im a med student and i go to gym regularly and i like reading. I just really miss a homie vibe. But you're right, i am overly sensitive and i do spend around 2h on internet which is making me feel bad. Thank you :)

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