Is it normal that i feel like my relationship with him is doomed? :(

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I have known my boyfriend and dated him for a year already. We met in my math class, I was a senior and he was a junior back then. At first, I feel for him for his looks, as he looked very sexy to me. He played in the school's football team, and ran track and field, so his body is on point and he has beautiful eyes. around that time, he was broken up with his girlfriend, who had been an aqcuaintance of mine, not really a friend. He started showing interest in me,walking me to class, talking to me often, and making him walk him to practice every day after school.
I liked spending time with him. He even joined facebook just to talk to me via Messenger, after i convinced him to. I knew time was ticking, and that falling in love was a terrible idea, knowing that i would go to college soon, and leave him still in High School. But sometimes it's just SO HARD controlling who you love. love transcend everything. Time, race, age gender, everything. That is why love is a bitch, because it's a fearless little cat, that we can't help but have lol.
Well, we walked together to his practice everyday, and we hugged, and then he first kissed me. His hands were on my waist, and it was a sunny hot afternoon, after Spring; the onset of summer. We made out a lot, and i lusted after him. I knew i was actually in love with him before we went to prom, but i never told him. I didn't know if he felt that way about me, and rejection is a scary thing to me. Prom night was amazing. We danced, he kissed me in front of everyone in the middle of the dance floor, we got away from all the hype, found a little place, and made out A LOT lol.
On leaving, i cried like a bitch. I was so sad, because I was in love with him. I sent him a message on Messenger, telling him I was actually in love with him. Surprisingly to me, he said he was in love too. my mom is such a bitch, and it was hard convincing her to let me go on dates with him the summer after I left high school.we messaged each other a lot, and we were madly in love. I was always secure with him and other girls, despite having my own deep insecurities.
One time, on instagram, I saw that he had been liking stripper's photos and what nots. I watch porn too, and I am obsessed with sexy famous men like Michael Ealy, Ryan Gosling, etc.But i am sooooo insecure, that i felt hurt by this. i started losing trust in him,but nver really told him.
We fight a lot, but we always get past everything together. However, recently, we had an argument about trust. He started saying he would break up with me, because he felt like i didn't love him,and that I had serious trust issues. He said he thought i would one day be his wife, but now he sees i would make a bad wife.Well he said he loved me still. I told him to stay, and I begged him. BEGGED, Never knew it would turn out like this. After a year...
There is just something wrong about begging a man to stay. After everything, do you think this relationship might work and go on or is it doomed?

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  • Thatguy777
    11 years ago

    If you two are really in love then you should be able to work it out. If the pictures bother you, then you should tell him that instead of starting to trust him less. Communication is key. If you two don't talk things out, it won't work. Trust me. Be completely honest with each other and don't hide anything. Then maybe you can trust him again, and he'll know that and things can go back to normal.

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  • kittylitter101
    11 years ago

    Hellllll to the no. You both aren't happy but want to be. I know that you may think that he's the best you can get because of your insecurities, but he's just a high school boyfriend. How much time do you actually spend in person with each other? Because if all you're doing is messaging over Facebook and whatever else constantly than you guys don't even know how you would do in person. Can you carry on a decent conversation with him over the phone? Do you really love him or the idea of what he was when you were in high school? People change, and not everyone is meant to stay in your life forever. It's time to break it off, focus on your post-highschool things (college, job, whatever) and get your life together. Also, try to get over your insecurities. Go and talk to someone, it'll be worth it. Bottom line is, this is going to end sooner or later. Let it be sooner because once you let go of him now, you're going to be much happier. I guarantee it.

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  • monkey4kitten
    11 years ago

    my opinion about porn is old fashion and so is my boyfriends but one day just after we got back together from breaking up for a month recently i found something on our computer, before we agreed to give it another shot we sat down and told each other every thing, our worries, lies, secrets and what we did while we where apart. i asked him how many times are you hiding any thing, he said no, then i found that!!!!

    My trust was already low due to him cheating on me before we broke up but seeing that and him telling me he told me every thing, well i hardly have any trust left. Its been 4 years since that day, we are still not great but we are getting there. im not saying what you are going through is easier, god no, but you said you watch porn too, how come that dropped your trust in him?

    I agree with thatguy777, talk to him, tell him how you feel and why, don't keep it in side or your actions will push him away, trust me. sometimes telling people how you feel makes you realize how stupid it is or you figure out what you want. If he is madly in love with you, then he will understand and stand by you.

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