Is it normal that i feel like my girlfriend is asking too much

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She wants me to be more sweet and romantic.

I mean, I could be a little sweeter for her. But I still text her first 90% of the time, ask her to hang out 90% of the time, initiate 90% of the physical contact. Lately I've been pulling most of the strings in the relationship. We celebrate holidays and anniversaries together. And hangout around once a week, and I always ask her to. I'm puting in more effort than she is. The only reason I haven't been paying more attention to her is because her lack of effort in the relationship makes me think she needs some space.

Yet she still says I'm not as sweet as her other boyfriends, and I need to be sweeter and more romantic. Even though I feel like I'm going out with a crash test dummy because she hardly does anything in our relationship. Is this normal?

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Leave the relationship. Why should you do all the work in the relationship while she doesn't put any effort in, then says you aren't as sweet and romantic as her previous boyfriends? It's not fair and completely disrespectful.

    What I would do if I was you is tell her. "Sorry, but you're not like the previous partners I've had, they appreciated me doing my best, contributed as much as I did to the relationship, and didn't compare me to her exes, so I don't want to be in a relationship with you."

    How people can be in a relationship that involves her comparing you to her exes when you do most of the work is beyond me.

    Ditch her, find a woman that appreciates you.

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    • danielsays
      12 years ago

      Yeah, I dumped my last girlfriend of 7 months because of some of the same reasons. She should never compare you to her ex boyfriends...

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    • plum6
      12 years ago

      agreed, she's dogging you

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    • Saycheese
      12 years ago

      Agree 100%

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    • uPSIDEOFDOWn
      12 years ago

      This x1000

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    • NeuroNeptunian
      12 years ago

      This.

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  • myownopinions
    12 years ago

    What kind of girl would say her ex's were sweeter than you?! That's basically her saying that she thinks she should have stuck with her ex's. I'd break up with her, sorry, but if she's acting like a crash test dummy then she doesn't really care about you.

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  • JBTwitch95
    12 years ago

    Girls ALWAYS ask for too much. If the bitch aint happy, you aint happy. TRUST ME BRO

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  • solidman
    12 years ago

    Lol me too. So just give her a chance to see much she really likes you if she doesn't. Than I think you should find someone else.

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    • chatter289
      12 years ago

      agreeeed

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  • Shackleford96
    12 years ago

    She doesn't sound like she really appreciates you. I know all to well what that's like.

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  • tener-razon
    12 years ago

    Girls think this is how relationships should go. I hate my teenage peers.
    Tell her that she needs to put more effort in your relationship or it's over.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    Oh no. This girl just seems like too much hard work and not really worth the effort.

    If she's not making you laugh, dump her.
    Better still - don't text for a while and see how long it takes her to text you. Perhaps she thinks you're a doormat and so is treating you like one?!

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  • Ldizzy1234
    12 years ago

    She shouldn't be comparing you to her ex boyfriends. I just think thats B.S. Everybody is different at showing affection and emotions in love and relationships. She sounds kind of selfish too.

    However, I think if you haven't said anything yet, say something soon. She needs to know that you feel you're doing most of the work. I mean, just from what you've said, it sounds one sided. Tell her how you feel. If she can't act a little more like a 'girlfriend', get out of that relationship fast.

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  • RinTin
    12 years ago

    Don't let her guilt you.

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  • Loh
    12 years ago

    Dump her selfish ass.

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  • RidingSheepOnClouds
    12 years ago

    Another point is that you're only telling "your side".

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  • RidingSheepOnClouds
    12 years ago

    Maybe she'll "put in more effort" if you actually listen to her. It's not hard to do or say something nice to your partner.

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