Is it normal that i feel like i dont need any friends in my life?

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Well, I'm 19 years old and i'm a very loving, caring and gentle person however; I have this thing that I just keep a distance from the people who love me (friends). I've known my "best friend" for 4 years and she always says that she sees me like a sister and all that, but I just dont feel that close to anyone. I just break their hearts at times when they expect me to do things that a friend should do. For example, I didn't call her on her birthday and just texted her instead when she were on holiday and she immediately started arguing as to why I did that and why I didn't call her at least once whilst she was on her holiday. The thing is my personality is just completely different as I don't really care if my friend doesn't ever call me or just things like that. I just do not really care and I just feel like if I dont call or speak to a friend for ages, it should just be normal and not such a shock to people.

I also feel like certain people just take advantage of my caring personality and just take or ask a favour from me and not speak to me for a while after; maybe that is why I feel this way.

Honestly, if I have read this post somewhere, I would have though that the person posting this just has a cold personality and is careless, but I honestly am not like that and i'm a very caring and warm person. I just don't know what this is.

Is what i'm feeling normal? Thanks

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  • Antir0b0t
    11 years ago

    I am the SAME way. I feel like I'm socially awkward sometimes though, but I'm bad with friendships... I think some people just interact differently with people. And if we're satisfied and happy without being surrounded by friends often I think that's great! The best friend you can have, is yourself. So I would say you aren't cold or harsh, just different than the "majority" or "social norm" for how friendships are cultivated or kept.

    (Personally, a lot of girls are dramatic or succumbed by irrelevant things. At least at my age-19. So I feel more comfortable just being with my boyfriend and hanging with our friends when we want. If they're really your friend they would understand, keep your chin up. You're perfectly fine the way you are.)

    <3

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      Thanks :)) x

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  • kelili
    11 years ago

    I don't think you have a cold personality because I felt the same some years ago and since I still have some friends who live far but I won't call to take their news. If they test I reply but I don't feel like I need them even if I still think that they are fun to be with sometimes.

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  • NormalIsOverratedBeANinja
    11 years ago

    I'm the same way! I'm about as introverted as they come. I'm not much of a people person, even when it comes to friends. I'm happy to help them out if they're going through a rough time, but the rest of the time there just isn't anything to say, and I'd really rather do something else than have a shallow conversation about the weather or Marissa's new boyfriend. If I do have friends, they're online friends - that's about as intimate as I prefer to be with people.

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  • DolphinDevil
    11 years ago

    I think I love you <3

    That means I need to kill you!

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