Is it normal that i feel left out and worthless

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Hi I'm a 21 year old female. Everyone that I went to school with in my younger years is either successful or having kids. I feel so left out because I have nothing going for myself. I'm not hideously ugly or stupid...I'm pretty wise and well rounded for my age but I'm emotionally and socially immature. I'm not on the same level as people my age and it's starting to get me down. I really don't have anything to call my own. I've never even had a real boyfriend mostly because I don't want one right now and I don't desire sex because I don't want to get pregnant. But...I feel like everyone is ahead of me. I know that I shouldn't compare myself to others but it's so hard. It doesn't help that people say that I look like I'm 15-16 years old. I feel like I'm still a child, like I haven't broken out of being a kid. I was pretty sheltered growing up and I think that's part of the reason why - now I don't know how to break free and be the adult that I'm supposed to be. I feel like everyone is laughing at me because they see me as inferior. I also feel like I let my mom down because she had high expectations for me...and she always talks about me having kids and a boyfriend and I am just not interested in the whole idea (at least not now). Should I feel like this?

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    Don't be so hard on yourself, and don't have any kids until you're married.

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  • LostAndBroken
    9 years ago

    All you have to be in life is yourself. Try not to let the judgements and expectations of others get to you. I know it can be hard, but it's you you see when you look in the mirror. You're the one who lives in your skin - you should be happy there.

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  • Pixie36
    9 years ago

    This is how feel. 21 now and everyone still treats me like a child. Plus I have this need to wander around. Guess I am in some life crisis now.

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  • IIN2?uestionlife
    9 years ago

    Lol my life is VERY similar to this. We're around the same age and I completely understand I often feel the same way like im falling behind. But just move at your own pace and always try to progress and strive towards goals. People have different circumstances so its not fair to yourself to compare yourself to them. But hey message me if youd like to talk. Good luck :)

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  • KeepsakeDoll
    9 years ago

    I feel the same way, haha.

    Don't worry, it's normal to feel like this. Early 20's and around that age can usually be a small life crisis since people are finding themselves and are trying to mature into an adult.

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