Is it normal that i feel insecure about having sex?

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I'm 21. Male. And a virgin. I've only had one girlfriend but I dated her for 2.5 years. During that time we talked about sex a lot and it excited me, I really loved her. She made me a promise that we'd share our first times together and it really meant a lot to me.
Needless to say, that promise was never kept. In the end that ex could never get over her fear of sex and I was ok with that, but it had its consequences after we broke up. After 2 years of not dating since I'm starting to feel like getting back into things. Yet, when I hear just how fast people have sex when dating it kind of scares me...

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  • pappusharma
    11 years ago

    Don't think too much, just go for it.. things will fall in place eventually.. If u are an Indian, don't worry many people get lucky around age 21-23.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    Just go for it when you feel ready there is no need to rush.

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  • dappled
    11 years ago

    Don't believe everything that people say. I never leap into sex early in a relationship. All this talk about a third date meaning sex is nonsense to me. I'd rather wait a bit, develop some feelings for someone. Although that's not to say I haven't occasionally been persuaded into something earlier, when it felt right.

    Tell whoever you're dating that you're not interested in rushing things. A lot of men may be turned off by a woman saying that, but women rarely are (which goes to show what most men are really after).

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