Is it normal that i feel he doesn't want to be with me

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I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years.He is now a tattoo artist and I am an artist-painter.He works alot.We only spend two days together.When he has his days off I feel like he isn't even with me when he is home.All he does is watch t.v,video games or works on designing tattoos.I do art shows once in awhile.He has not gone to one.I feel like he never goes to any events that are important to me.But when it comes to things he wants to do he can be there and go.I feel like it's all about him and not us.I do love him but I don't know how to continue this relationship if I feel alone.Should I act to busy to be around him?Please help me!

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Most people don't understand that when you're in a relationship you cease to belong solely to yourself, but also to your partner. It's no longer about you but also the one you love.

    Your boyfriend needs to make time for you. How he does that is up to him but you need to confront him about it and be blunt. Tell him that you need him and that you need him to care.

    If he won't then leave him. Serious relationships are for the serious, not for lazy gamers.

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  • Ldizzy1234
    13 years ago

    I think a lot of times in the beginning of a relationship, people are on their, "best behavior". During this period they are normally acting closer, and more involved with there partner. However, after a while of them being together for so long, their best behavior wears off, and they are now in the comfort zone where they tend to not try as much as they did before. This is when their true self is shown. (A lot of times this happens a lot with married couples.)

    Since you guy's have been in a 6 year relationship together, I wouldn't say he doesn't want to be with you anymore. I would think that he now, just know's that he totally has you, you two can just lay on the couch together, not talking, eating chips, and that would be enough.

    But obviously that isn't enough for you. He's showing you his true colors. Do you take it or leave it? It's your decision. Have you brought this up to him? Have you told him that you do what he wants to do, but when it comes to "you", he's not reciprocating? And you want to know, why? You need to ask him, and see what he says. Ask him why he's doing this?

    I'm sure you guy's can figure out a way for him to at least one day set aside his video games to do something fun with you. If he can't accommodate to your events, then you're gonna have to let him know, how far you're gonna go. If you don't want to break up, which you probably wouldn't after six years. Then maybe couples counseling, or just slowly stop doing all the things that he wants you to do with him? Tell him that if he won't do this with you, then he can't expect you to do this with him.

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