Is it normal that i feel hatred towards my family

I feel like I've wasted my entire life, and that I could never make up for everything I've missed, and that I could never develop the social skills needed for talking to people. I lived a sheltered life (over sheltered) from the age of 7 until i was 15 thanks to my stupid paranoid parents, waste of space that they are. I was subsequently bullied by the other kids in my village because of the way i was, and the way i lived. My mother especially, never encouraged me to make anything of my life, it was a meaningless life of make her tea, and sign my disabillity benefit over to her, to squander it away on rubbish. This has made me bitter over the past 10 years. When i started to venture out on my own, i was already 22, i had no structuring, and i had no social skills. I was just a walking moron who had no friends, and had never had GF experience either at that time. I decided to enrol at a college, but i lasted only a few months, it was the novelty of looking and acting like a student that appealed to me. I also joined an adult access course at my local university, but i was not entitled to the privilages that are offered to undergraduate students. I was only given a pictureless card with only my name. I couldn't use the sports facillities nor the students union, except for the library. This only drove me more towards anger and hatred towards students in general, Now at the age of 30, i have no job, i have no friends,and no chance to gain back the best years of my life. I hate my parent with a passion, i hope they rot in hell.

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  • pookypoo

    I understand how you feel completely because Im in my 40s and have carried anger and blame my whole life. Not only towards my parents but towards people in general. Carrying this blame and anger achieves nothing. It just holds you back from achieving your hopes and dreams. It keeps you stuck.
    Its quite rare that we get what we need whilst growing up because most of the time the adults around us also didnt get what they needed and so they are just doing what they can and what they know. This is no excuse for neglect, abuse or any other kind of bad parenting but it is a reason.
    We are all human and we are all deeply flawed. You might think that when its your turn that you will do things differently and better and you probably will but you too like those before you will make mistakes and if you have kids they will probably resent you no matter how a good a job you think you did at raising them.
    Sooner or later you will realise that the only way forward is to let go and forgive. It will be a huge weight of your shoulders. Im sorry for what youve been through, I really am. I know your pain and your anguish.
    Start to make the life you really want now. Dont be yet another victim living a wasted life.

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  • desert123123

    hey it is still not late to start a new life. Why think of your parents when you hate them so much? just dont think about them and go find something you like to do as a career. good luck =]

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  • Smurf20

    With what you've been through I think it's totally normal. In the long term it will be better for YOU to forgive, just so that you will be able to pick of the pieces and move on. But that is really hard. It sounds like you may benefit from the help of a professional until you can develop your own support systems, and get the direction that you didn't receive growning up.

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  • yug76

    it is normal to blame your parents and the world but you need to take some responsibility for your situation before you can change it

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  • My parents are the same way. I'm 16 and they are ruining my life cuz they shelter me so much. I'm afraid to end up like that. In fact, I'm not even suppose to be typing this right now cuz they think if I talk to people online I'll get raped or something. God damn I hate them.

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  • You are pretty much stuck on blaming your parents, for whatever shortcomings they had, on where you are at now at 30.

    Yet you have squandered opportunities, of which there have been a number, to do something with your own life.

    I don't feel much sympathy for you. Grow up.

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  • BatZion

    you need to make a change and stop blaming the way your parents brought you up. you need to stand up for yourself and excel on your own and have purpose-driven life.

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  • ed10198902

    i dont blame you for the way you feel- it sounds like you've had a rough life, much of it is not your fault, and you have a right to be pissed. that being said- it would be very impressive of you to forgive and be resilient in the fact of this hardship. of course thats easier said than done, but if you could find a way to start appreciating what you do have and let your experiences motivate you to be a better person, i think things will most likely start falling into place for you with time. its usually the case that good things happen to good people when they hang in there long enough

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  • some parents shelter their kids too much, but don't just blame them!

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