Is it normal that i feel guilty after being hit on?

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Lately I've been receiving a lot more attention than I'm used to. When I'm with my boyfriend a dirty glare towards them is all I need to feel comfortable, but when I'm alone I feel vulnerable.
If one of my male coworkers or an aquatint lingers too long in a conversation and starts to get flirtatious I feel like I provoked it even though I'm not flattered or attracted towards them.
Same thing if they ask for my number or try to hug me for longer than I'd like.

I'm not sure how to put my foot down with people I see regularly without coming off as a bitch, and I know I'm not being unfaithful. But I can't help feeling almost dirty when I see my boyfriend and explain to him whats going on.

It's also started to cause me to be hesitant towards sex because I feel so dirty/skanky.

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  • blaster
    12 years ago

    Guys get this with older women , just not sure most guys even recognize it when it's happening that's all.
    Me , I try to send out the don't even think about it vibe or if it gets to a hug, your sort of backing it off before it even a hug, not too touchy then move away again, even turn away a little before it starts. They pick it up and don't try again or approach you in the first place once your good at it.
    People can have a hug look or ask me look about them , seem approachable and if they're good looking then people are looking for it too so don't send it out if you don't like the attention.
    The trick is to not seem approachable, doesn't have to be cold or bitchy and if it is a touch tough it's your space , your your own boss, you decide what you do or don't want to do, just look or start to move away when you see it comings, don't invite it with niceness or welcoming smiles.

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  • Mersaphe
    10 years ago

    Don't feel guilty for being attractive. Your boyfriend will understand.

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  • adjacentred51
    10 years ago

    Guys are like that. Girls have this dreamy idea that we care what you have to say if your not interested in us on an intimate level. Your boyfriend's not single friends and close family friends being the exception. Also gay guys I would assume. Don't be cold or "in control". Just keep it professional and you won't have to worry about it. Remember that the hardware in our heads... Talking about brains... Is the same brain that humans had 10000 years ago when we were out killing elephants with spears and dragging women into caves. Its already hard enough not to beat you over the head with a club and do what we want. Don't make it any more difficult.

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  • Its_Called_Love
    12 years ago

    Don't worry about it. After a while if you are abrupt with them they'll stop. I had a similar problem, because I'm shy I didn't know how to set those boundaries.

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  • IrishPotato
    12 years ago

    You would be dirty/skanky if you slept with all your male co-workers.

    Frankly, a long hug is no problem, but if you really don't feel comfortable about it, just reject it.

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  • GMAN
    12 years ago

    You had an extended conversation with another male you must be a fucking whore.

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