Is it normal that i feel extra flattered being hit on by another race?

It sounds really shallow to say it, but most of us would probably admit that we feel extra flattered and excited when someone really attractive is flirting with us. It can be a huge ego booster. But what if the other person is of a different creed to your own?

I happen to be white, and I find that when a member of any other race starts hitting on me, I feel even more flattered than when an extremely attractive white person hits on me. Not only do I feel flattered, I also feel much more intimidated. My hearts pounds and I'm suddenly wracked with self doubt and I don't know what to say.

At first, I assumed this must be because of the bias toward same-race couples in society. Part of you figures that this person must have run out of people of their own race to try it on, but the other part wants to believe that you're so hot this person forgoes societal biases to flirt with you because you're just that special.

Somehow, I always end up feeling like there's something extra expected of me due to what they're used to from their own race; or like I have to be/act a certain way. I find myself lost for words and just about as shocked as if an alien landed and asked me, of all earthlings, out on a date. I usually end up creeping them out, and I know it sounds extreme, but...

I eventually came to realize that it's probably because my background is rural and I knew absolutely zero non-white people growing up. None whatsoever. Blacks, Hispanics, Asians, natives, and Middle-Easterners were only on TV back then for me. So maybe, I thought, this isn't so common for urban people who are used to ethnic diversity being part of their everyday lives.

So, as curious as always, I ask, "is it normal?"

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86% Normal
Based on 7 votes (6 yes)
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  • Avant-Garde

    I don't usually think in those terms when people flirt with me. I really don't care. The only thing that I care about is whether or not, 1. I am getting a negative vibe from this person (they're creepy, etc) and 2. if they have other motives (they are sluts that want to hook up).

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    • RoseIsabella

      Precisely!

      I'm usually only flattered if the person is polite and preferably attractive according to my standards. If someone is pushy, overly assertive and or creepy in any way I don't care what race they are or what they look like; I just want them to leave me the hell alone.

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  • TheDudeAbides

    Ha. I'm middle eastern and am now wondering if I can hurl down enough compliments at you that you'd hyperventilate and faint.

    I think you've answered your own question well enough. Not only if it's normal or not (which it is) but why you may feel this way. Usually people who grow up in rural areas end up being the opposite though, but hey, whatever works for you.

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    • RainbowDischarge

      I feel like when theres a hot middle eastern girl, shes like really hot. Exotic af.

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  • Its not uncommon for guys of other races to hit on white women. We're like the holy grail to them or something. Over here in SA coloured guys are forever hitting on white girls and it kind of makes my fucking skin crawl because most of them are on a completely different level socially, mentally and culturally.

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