Is it normal that i feel extra flattered being hit on by another race?
It sounds really shallow to say it, but most of us would probably admit that we feel extra flattered and excited when someone really attractive is flirting with us. It can be a huge ego booster. But what if the other person is of a different creed to your own?
I happen to be white, and I find that when a member of any other race starts hitting on me, I feel even more flattered than when an extremely attractive white person hits on me. Not only do I feel flattered, I also feel much more intimidated. My hearts pounds and I'm suddenly wracked with self doubt and I don't know what to say.
At first, I assumed this must be because of the bias toward same-race couples in society. Part of you figures that this person must have run out of people of their own race to try it on, but the other part wants to believe that you're so hot this person forgoes societal biases to flirt with you because you're just that special.
Somehow, I always end up feeling like there's something extra expected of me due to what they're used to from their own race; or like I have to be/act a certain way. I find myself lost for words and just about as shocked as if an alien landed and asked me, of all earthlings, out on a date. I usually end up creeping them out, and I know it sounds extreme, but...
I eventually came to realize that it's probably because my background is rural and I knew absolutely zero non-white people growing up. None whatsoever. Blacks, Hispanics, Asians, natives, and Middle-Easterners were only on TV back then for me. So maybe, I thought, this isn't so common for urban people who are used to ethnic diversity being part of their everyday lives.
So, as curious as always, I ask, "is it normal?"