Is it normal that i feel dread when i have a chance to date?

I am an 18-year-old woman, out of high school. Lately I had been feeling worried men would take no interest in me because they would always approach my other female friends instead. When someone did, a nice guy though perhaps not my type, I felt my stomach turn to lead and drop and my insides went cold. I am quite good at holding in my own emotions so I played it cool but I felt so panicked! Wasn't this what I wanted? It's a while later and I have been messaging a guy I was starting to have feelings for. This didn't scare me and I was wondering how I would go about asking him out or if he would ask me, but when a mutual friend asked me how I felt about him I was full of fear again! Why does the notion of having a relationship scare me so suddenly?! When asked if I would date him I said yes to this friend because I had thought to myself that I would! But even now, hours later, my heart is pumping and NOT in a good, happy, romantic way. It's a feeling like I'm panicking. Is this at all normal??

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  • compass8396

    Yeah it's normal, I mean I've had a full year to ask someone to date me and now she's dating another guy because I was and still am too scared and nervous to ask her. But before you ask them out make sure you're friends or at least know what they like and don't like.

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  • Darkknight

    Sounds normal, perhaps as in my case fear of rejection.

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  • Ummitsme

    Very normal. Guys are likely scared to talk to you as well. It is wild how bad men and women are at talking to eachother.

    Have 1 moment of courage and just talk to him. Otherwise you will get hit up by a guy with some game that just wants to just use you.

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  • Shackleford96

    Sounds normal. You probably are just nervous. Try to relax

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