Is it normal that i feel disturbed when dealing with romance?

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The mere mentioning of 'being in love' scares me. So many of my friends are acting out of character after meeting "The One". To me, that person sounds like a Grim Reaper or something.

And recently I've depressed over the fact that a close male friend of mine admitted that it is one of his biggest wish to marry me (we have been friends for years). I don't want him to think I'm those typical girls that "friendzone" nice guys, but I don't know how to deal with that and I've been avoiding him since.. I've pushed away countless people in my life just to avoid being tangled in romance drama, so this is a nightmare.

Why would they want 'love' when life has so much more to offer?! There's much knowledge to learn (university level is just not enough!), money to earn, interesting people to converse with, time to spend with *family*, lives to save by being active in extreme volunteer work. But all my friends always just look at me pitifully and say I'll never understand, without explaining to me. So I'm wondering if there are people out there who are/had been in my shoes before?

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Love doesn't mean you are tied down. You determine how you define your relationship standards and you don't have to live up to someone else's expectations unless that is what *you* truly want for yourself.

    For instance, my best friend loves to travel all over the world and never wants to be married or have children. So, she only dates men who are respectful of this. She doesn't mind being in a monogamous relationship or being in love, but she doesn't want it to hold her back in her enjoyment and experience of life.

    Find someone who's goals are aligned with yours and you won't feel as "disturbed" by being in love.

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  • peterrabbyt3
    7 years ago

    Sucking cock is always the answer. Male or female.

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  • jellokatt
    9 years ago

    been in love a few times - hated it. i love my friends and family, but i'll pass on the romance from now on.

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  • starie
    11 years ago

    People like to feel that one on one connection with another. It's something greater than things like work, making ends meat,etc... People live to work instead of work to live. When you're in love with someone it's like you're finally living, putting your life to good use instead of just wasting time one practical day to day things only.

    P.s: being in love doesn't mean you don't talk to other people.

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  • MCA
    11 years ago

    The day you fall in-love with the right person they will support and encourage all that you wish to do. Imagine falling in-love with someone who wishes to volunteer the way you do and is interested in always continue gaining knowledge.

    I get the impression that you had a difficult family life growing up that perhaps did not offer much support you believe that all relationships are the same.

    Open up and allow love in.... you may find that you do not need to give up anything you want but will enjoy doing them all with the one you love. Good luck!

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