Is it normal that i feel a little scared?

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So I've been dating my boyfriend since I was a freshman in high school but seriously for two years and some months.We love each other very much. I just feel like I over think things sometimes. I just have a fear that we will end up breaking up. This fear has been there since we've started. One incident let me believe that I'm not secure in the relationship even though he cried to me saying he loves me. How can I get over this? and is it normal that we're serious about each other even though we are young ?

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  • thegypsysailor
    10 years ago

    I have no doubt that you two love each other, but you must keep in mind that now that you are (or nearly are) finished with high school, your lives will change greatly. The possibility that your interests will diverge and you will each choose a different path, is very real. Even if you both go to the same college, you cannot help meeting other people whose influence on you each will be different.
    The most important thing is that you respect each other's growth as a learning experience and do not fear it as a lead up to a break up.
    It would not be unheard of for one or both of you to stray, out of curiosity, if nothing else, and you both must accept this as part of your individual growth, accepting the pain and not turn it into a destructive situation.
    With proper management, your love will get you through; be supportive, loving and realistic.
    Good luck.

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  • ibreathelectric
    10 years ago

    Honestly, it's all about the other person. I was in a relationship with someone who made me feel so insecure about both myself and our relationship that I had anxiety. My current significant other, however, leaves me absolutely no room to consider us ending things ever, so I am 100% confident in the relationship.

    Bottom line, take a really close look at how he treats you and look at successful relationships where there isn't that fear and anxiety. You may just notice a difference when you take a step back and examine things from an outside perspective.

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    Maybe you don't need to get over your fear that the relationship won't work out. You feelings could be your intuition trying to tell you something. Try keeping a journal of your experiences thoughts and emotions and you should be better able to discern what your feelings mean.

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  • peterr
    10 years ago

    Are you too scared to suck his cock?

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    I think you are normal, but if you are under 25, you should keep it more light hearted and don't become co dependent. You have a long life. Live it up meet new people have fun get laid try new things travel etc

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